I’m having separate affairs with my mate and his wife after regular threesomes 0 31

DEAR DEIDRE: I WAS enjoying regular threesomes with my mate and his wife but things have taken a dodgy turn.

Now I’m having affairs with both of them separately and neither knows about the other.

I’m having separate affairs with my mate and his wife after regular threesomes

Even though it is getting messy, I’m loving the thrill.

My mate and I are 40 and he married a girl two years younger, who we were at school with.

We all drink in the same crowd. My mate and his wife are overtly sexual, happy to show their frisky side when we’ve all had a few.

Recently she asked if I could go and help her put up a curtain rail. Her husband is the world’s worst DIY-er and his last attempts left chunks missing out of the wall.

While organising the room where the rail needing fitting, I moved her bed and saw her box of sex toys.

She giggled and said: “Ooops, you weren’t supposed to see that.”

We then talked about sex and she asked if I’d ever had a threesome.

She said she’d always liked me and had discussed threesomes with her husband.

She said: “We’re up for trying it if you are.” I drove home in a dream. I went back to theirs the following week, and after a few beers in the garden, I was very chilled.

We all went up to their bedroom and us blokes concentrated on her.

We had a great time and were soon at it every couple of weeks.

But one day, my mate messaged saying I was a real turn-on and that he fancied me. I was shocked but admitted that he was looking fit too.

His wife went to her sister’s a few days later, so I went round to his and we got it on, doing sexual favours for one another.

After she returned, I wanted to talk to her about it. But when I called round, she grabbed me and kissed me.

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We ended up having sex, just the two of us, and now it’s become a regular thing.

I don’t want to split them up but I’ve got a feeling this is all going to end badly.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You are right, it is a mess. The boundaries were set as a threesome and you have all broken the rules. This isn’t on.

You are all betraying each other and someone is almost certainly going to end up getting hurt.

My guess is you’ll be the one stuck in the middle if all of this gets out.

Tell your friends you enjoyed your threesomes but would like to quit while you are ahead.

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Then perhaps nobody will get hurt and their marriage will survive.

Get out and find somebody for yourself who you have a chance of building a loving relationship with.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 30

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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