Since my wife hit the menopause, our great sex life has fallen off a cliff 0 134

DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my wife hit the menopause I’ve become celibate overnight. I’m 57 and she’s 53.

We used to have such a great sex life but it has fallen off a cliff after she started getting symptoms at 51.

Since my wife hit the menopause, our great sex life has fallen off a cliff

I’ve read up a lot about it and I really want to support her.

She says it’s great I take the trouble to understand what she’s going through, but I really miss the passion.

She’s also never very affectionate any more. We used to hold hands in bed.

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Now she turns her back on me and shrugs me off even if I just want a cuddle.

I’m so fed up.

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