Make 2022 the best year in bed by using sex tricks like the frog pose, eating blueberries & not kissing for 5 mins 0 171

FAILED at your New Year resolutions already? You are not alone.

Research shows more than a third of people who make these promises to themselves do not stick it out beyond the end of January.

Getty – ContributorThis year could be your sexiest ever – with a little help from our carnal calendar[/caption]

And abiding by a gruelling diet or exercise plan can be challenging in the chilly weather – especially with Blue Monday, the most depressing day of the year, arriving after this weekend.

So why not plan for pleasure instead?

This year could be your sexiest ever – with a little help from our carnal calendar.

From the clocks going back in March to the extra bank holidays, every date is an opportunity for passion, says sexpert Kate Taylor.

Here. she reveals all to Katy Docherty.

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January

SEXERCISE

THIS month, cash in on your short-lived enthusiasm for fitness by focusing on exercises that will boost your sex life instead.

For example, yoga will improve your bendiness and send more blood flowing to your important bits.

Try the Frog pose by resting on your elbows while opening up your knees and hips on the ground.

In the gym, a simple plank position works deep core muscles that are vital for ­sexual stamina.

And, according to Harvard researchers, regular swims can add years to your sex life.

Whatever you do, work out with your partner and get hot during your cool-downs.

February

GET SMOOCHY

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THERE’S a time and a place for wham-bam action – but it’s not February.

Valentine’s Night is the time to catch all the feels.

To make sex intimate rather than passionate, you need to INCREASE eye contact, DECREASE your speed, and MAXIMISE body contact.

Make your movements slow and sensuous rather than frenzied.

Stroke each other slowly until every inch of your skin is tingling, and keep your faces close so you can kiss as much as possible.

Try a slow girl-on-top sesh, and maintain eye contact while you move.

At the final moment, kiss.

March

SPEED THINGS UP

Getty – ContributorThe clocks go back in March so you get an hour less in bed, making it the perfect moment to finally master the quickie[/caption]

THE clocks go back this month so you get an hour less in bed, making it the perfect moment to finally master the quickie.

Fast and furious sex can be unfulfilling for women because we typically need ten minutes MORE action than fellas to reach climax.

So you need to put the time in before you start.

Try exchanging ever-steamier sexts throughout the day, or warm up first with a toy. Try the Lelo Mia 2 (£69, Amazon).

Then adopt a super-deep position that gives maximum stimulation, like the Quick-stand.

Your partner stands behind you, holding on to your hips. You bend forward, touch-ing your fingertips to the floor.

April

MOOD FOODS

STEP away from the Easter eggs. Eating foods high in sugar can cause your libido to crash, because excess weight messes up your hormonal balance.

Instead, this month adopt a diet that will send your sex drive sky-rocketing.

AVOID sugar, processed foods and saturated fats. As well as causing stress and anxiety, processed foods can affect your energy levels and leave you feeling body-conscious.

EMBRACE foods high in magnes-ium (nuts, leafy veg and seeds) to regulate your hormones.

Add in zinc to boost sperm health (oysters, pumpkin seeds) and finish with fresh foods that naturally raise your feel-good hormone dopamine (blueberries, avocado and asparagus).

May

BONK HOLIDAY

Getty – ContributorIn May practise edging (aka peaking, surfing or denying) to increase your orgasm strength[/caption]

ONE way to increase your orgasm strength is to practise edging (aka peaking, surfing or denying).

That’s when you stimulate yourself and/or your partner until you are almost (but not quite) at the point of climax – and then stop.

Wait for the feelings to calm down, then start again.

Edging is fun to try by yourself but it’s especially enlightening and enjoyable with your partner.

By teasing each other almost to the point of no return, you learn each other’s cues and giveaways, making you sexual mind-readers.

You also both remain in a tantalising state of arousal over a much longer session.

June

FLIRTY FOREPLAY

FOREPLAY is the most important part of your sex life.

But it’s also often the first thing to go once you are settled into an established relationship.

A survey published in the Journal Of Sex Research found that the average foreplay session lasts just 11 minutes.

This month, you could perhaps try to double that.

Spend five minutes just kissing before you have even taken your tops off.

Kissing increases your heart rate, boosts your natural lubrication and strengthens erections.

Then spend ten minutes massaging each other, with teasing touches that skim over the naughty bits.

Next, move on to third base for five minutes.

And only attempt a home run when you’re both squirming around with lust.

July

DO IT EVERY DAY

Getty – ContributorTake the challenge in July to have sex, or at least a very intimate encounter, with each other every day this month[/caption]

COUPLES have more sex in July than during other months of the year, according to a survey by Lovehoney.

Take that as a challenge and aim to have sex, or at least a very intimate encounter, with each other every day this month.

Regular sex is a great stress-reliever. It promotes intimacy, lowers blood pressure and even increases your self-esteem.

Don’t aim for nightly marathons. Instead, mix in a few before-work quickies with some mutual self-pleasure sessions.

Even slipping naked together under a blanket on the sofa to watch TV can increase your oxytocin levels (the natural bonding hormone) and help you feel more affectionate and trusting of each other

August

GET HOT & HEAVY

Getty – ContributorIn August make a splash with some wet-and-wild fun by snogging in the shower[/caption]

WHEN the weather heats up, your sex life can wilt unless you make some sexy swaps.

FORGET bed bonking. Heat rises and, if upstairs, your room will be too steamy.
Instead, head to cooler downstairs rooms, such as the kitchen (use that tiled floor) or sitting room.

Make a SPLASH with some wet-and-wild fun by snogging in the shower. Or take a sexy spin in a hot tub or gardening paddling pool, if you have one.

To keep air circulating, get into positions that aren’t so up-close and personal.
Swap Spoons for the Fork (she lies back with legs wide to either side, he enters from the top).

September

BACK TO SEX SCHOOL

ENROL in online sex education to understand your own body, get to grips with your partner’s or improve your relationship.

Try these: 

Shush Life: Online courses for women and couples about orgasms, oral sex and libido from sex shop Sh! (£35. shushlife. com/courses).

LoveHoney on YouTube: Fun, free videos on everything from underwear to handiwork.

Roadmap To Intimacy: Created by sex therapists, this online class for couples aims to boost emotional and physical intimacy. (£120, theintimacy         institute.org).

October

COSTUME PARTY

GettyCostumes, wigs and characters are the easiest ways to refresh your sex life and add excitement[/caption]

IF you’re not using Halloween as an excuse for a steamy role-play session then I’m sorry to say you’re just not TRYING.

Costumes, wigs and characters are the easiest ways to refresh your sex life and add excitement.

Try to become a character unlike your normal self, as a chance to explore more of your own sexuality.

For example, if you are usually submissive in bed, adopt a bolder personality like Wonder Woman or Bridgerton’s Duke of Hastings, so you can play at “dominating” your partner.

November

FEEL FIREWORKS

FULL-body orgasms are explosive climaxes you feel as waves of energy flowing through your whole body.

They’re elusive but certain techniques can help you to get there.

First, always make sure to practise whole-body stimulation. Work on at least two or three body parts at the same time (for example, boobs + bits + bum, or legs + bits + kissing).

Ensure that you breathe deeply, because shallow breathing can minimise your energy.

Keep your whole body moving during sex.

And be vocal – the louder you are with your voice, the easier it is for your energy to build up to a huge release.

December

ROCK THEIR STOCKING

AlamyIn December give your partner and yourself gifts that will keep your sex life sizzling for another 12 months[/caption]

GIVE your partner (and, let’s be honest, yourself) gifts that will keep your sex life sizzling for another 12 months.

Try a couple’s vibrator, such as the Dame Eva II (£79, currentbody.com), that the woman wears during sex to receive thrilling hands-free stimulation.

Or a sex game that will reveal all your saucy secrets: Sexy Truth Or Dare (£14, uncommongoods.com).

A kinky pillow (£11.99, Amazon) will ensure G-spot tingles every time, and is inflatable so you can take it to the in-laws.

And invest in quality lubricant like Cult Beauty Intimate Lubricating Drops (£22, cultbeauty.co.uk).

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

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Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

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This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

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