I’m a sex expert – the five things all couples who have great sex do & how to spice up your bedroom antics 0 103

IF you’ve been in a relationship for quite some time you may begin to feel as if the spark is dying.

But this doesn’t have to be the case, and now sex expert Natassia Miller has shared the five things all couples who have great sex do. 

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Natassia shared the tips to her TikTok account in a video clip that has since been viewed over six million times, and has led to some people sharing their own thoughts in the comment section.

Natassia’s first tip is to talk about sex with your partner, adding that couples who have great sex “ask each other what they like, how they like it, and when they like it.”

This may feel awkward at first if you’re not used to these sorts of conversations, but it’ll be worth it when you’re next having sexy times.

Her next tip is to spend quality time with one another, with Natassia suggesting setting aside 20 minutes a day for cuddling. 

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She adds that this time of just holding one another creates greater intimacy, which can ultimately lead to better sex in the long run.

According to Natassia, it’s beneficial to your sex life as a couple to kiss each other passionately and to say “I love you” to one another daily, and to actually mean it when you do.

Her most controversial tip, however, is to prioritise and schedule sex, but Natassia argues that scheduling sex creates a buildup of anticipation that can really pay off after the chaos of your day-to-day lives.

However, some in the comments have argued with this final tip, with one writing: “Ya but when u schedule it when the time comes (no pun intended) it feels like sometimes u have to and it can feel forced.”

To which Natassia responded: “It definitely depends on the moment and if you don’t feel like it, definitely don’t force it! Just because it’s scheduled doesn’t mean you have to do it.”

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Others agreed with her viewpoint with one commenter writing: “Love the scheduling idea! The girl can prep if she wants, Which might make her feel sexier & ready. Sure impromptu sometimes too. But scheduling is ok.”

“Married 35 years we do all of the above!” added another.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 28

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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