DEAR DEIDRE: I AM fixated on the idea my girlfriend could cheat on me with her ex or someone new.
She is the first person I’ve been with since I split with my ex ten years ago.
I’m a 38-year-old man and my girlfriend’s 35 – I’ve fallen head over heels for her.
She was physically and mentally abusive and cheated on me numerous times.
I had completely given up on the idea of ever finding love but much to my surprise, my girlfriend found a way of knocking down every wall I had built to protect myself.
I’m a 38-year-old man and my girlfriend’s 35. I’ve fallen head over heels for her.
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She has kids so we only see one another at weekends when they’re with their dad.
She has been invited to a friend’s 40th and, although I persuaded her to go because she should make time for her friends, I’m worried about what might happen.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s great you realise this is about your insecurity, not your girlfriend’s behaviour.
Write down every way your girlfriend is different from your ex.
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