You won’t believe what your sex fantasy really means – from sleeping with a colleague to doing it outside 0 208

WHAT do you lie back and think of?

According to a recent survey, during sex a whopping 40 per cent of men are most likely to fantasise about sleeping with a colleague, while a quarter of women dream about getting dirty . . . with household chores.

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But what do our thoughts during the height of passion really mean?

Here, leading sexpert KATE TAYLOR decodes our deepest desires.

BEING DOMINATED BY A LOVER
You’re an adrenaline junkie

BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage go way beyond power-play.

A 2014 study found being dominated in bed affects blood flow to the brain and releases powerful endorphins that create an “altered state” of consciousness, similar to a runner’s high.

You’re likely to be a thrill-seeker in all areas of your life, and you seek out new experiences. A tendency to get bored easily can draw people to dominant partners.

DOMINATING A SUBMISSIVE
You want to boss the boardroom

A STUDY revealed that the number of men and women who fantasise about dominating a partner is broadly equal, with 59 per cent of men and 46 per cent of women dreaming of taking the reins (or the whip!).

You’re likely to be interested in control in all areas of your life — and you’ll like Succession on TV.

DAYDREAMING ABOUT CHORES
You know how to fake it

GettyIf you daydream about chores then you’ve either binge-watched too much Mrs Hinch or you are finding sex dull[/caption]

IF your mind wanders to the cleaning cupboard while your partner is giving you their all, you’ve either binge-watched too much Mrs Hinch or you are finding sex dull.

It may not be your lover’s fault. It could be you’ve never revealed what you really want, so sex has become something you do for them.

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You might even have resigned yourself to faking it — a 2019 study found shy women would rather fake orgasms than open up about their real desires in the bedroom.

FANTASISING ABOUT COLLEAGUE
You spend too much time on Zoom

HAVING sexy thoughts about a colleague is normal — especially if you’ve been working too hard.

Spending 40-plus hours a week with anyone can leave you either liking them or hating them. Either way, you’re thinking about them.

Research discovered the more often you look at a face, the more attractive you’ll find it. So if you’re falling for a colleague, consider swapping face-to-face meetings or Zoom chats for old-fashioned phone calls.

RE-LIVING SEX WITH AN EX
You miss your youth

WHEN you find yourself taking a steamy stroll down memory lane, you are probably not actually missing your ex. It’s more likely you are feeling wistful about a certain period of your life.

For example, if you fantasise about your most recent ex, you might be feeling vulnerable about dating and missing security. If your mind drifts back to your very first love, you could be feeling nostalgic about your youth and younger self.

Take these fantasies as a sign you are not totally happy with your current situation and shake things up.

SEX WITH MULTIPLE PEOPLE
You’re a good laugh

GettyIf you’re fantasising about having sex with multiple people at once, say in an orgy, chances are you’re highly extroverted[/caption]

IF you are fantasising about having sex with multiple people at different times, it might be you’re looking for validation or confirmation of your self-worth from an outside source.

But if you’re fantasising about having sex with multiple people at once, say in an orgy, chances are you’re highly extroverted. Other signs will be that you’re talkative and have a good sense of humour.

A SAME-SEX ENCOUNTER
You need to take sex into your own hands (literally)

ACCORDING to social psychologists, same-sex fantasies are much more common in women than men.

But whether you’re a guy or a girl, they can signify that you haven’t embraced your own sexuality yet.

A same-sex stand-in represents you and all your sexiness, and is an imaginary way to explore yourself.

The takeaway? See this fantasy as a sign that you need to celebrate your body, desires and sex drive. Try a weekend of “self care”.

HAVING SEX IN PUBLIC
You worry too much about what other people think

FRUSTRATIONS you feel in everyday life can often show up in your naughty daydreams.

So when you fantasise about indulging in full view of the world, it’s a clue you’ve been spending too much time worrying about what people think of you.

The flip side of this fantasy is voyeurism — watching someone else without their knowledge. A study found 54 per cent of men fantasise about watching someone in secret. That can reveal a need for power.

SEX WITH A STRANGER
You’re a people pleaser

GettyYou’re most likely to dream of sex with a stranger if you are a people-pleaser who puts a partner’s needs first[/caption]

SEX with a stranger can help a person focus on experimentation. It can take away feelings of inhibition, allowing you to play out your desires without judgment.

You’re most likely to dream of sex with a stranger if you are a people-pleaser who puts a partner’s needs first. It might be your wake-up call that you need to be more selfish between the sheets.

SEX IN A ROMANTIC LOCATION
You have a fear of abandonment

THE more perfect your sexual fantasies, the more of a worrier you might be in your relationship. A research study tracked 48 couples’ sexual fantasies over three weeks.

It found that participants with an anxious attachment style — meaning they felt fearful when in a relationship — tended to fantasise mostly about sexual encounters that included plenty of perfection and intimacy, especially if the relationship was tense or they had argued

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Lensa AI app could be used to create erotica or porn 0 42

In recent days, the Lensa app, a service that uses a neural network to create drawn portraits, has gone viral. To generate drawings, you have to upload 10 to 20 of your portrait photos to the app, from which the program will generate an avatar. But the app has proven easy to trick so that it creates soft porn.

Internet users say that if you upload topless photos to Lensa, the app disables the NSFW filter and generates nudes. 

In general, the idea of uploading your photos to a questionable app seems bad to many. The owners of the service assure that users’ photos are deleted after 24 hours, but it is impossible to check whether this is true. In addition, such services have repeatedly allowed leaks of users’ personal data.

The Lensa application is a SaaS product of Russian developers Prisma Labs. This is especially disturbing for the residents of Ukraine, where the application has also gone viral: Ukrainian journalists urge citizens not to give their personal data to Russians, because considering the work of Russian special services, no one can guarantee a sufficient level of security when using programs written by the enemy. To use Lensa, each user has to accept the rules – to agree to the training of the neural network in order for it to work more correctly. Photos go to Google Cloud Platform or Amazon Web Services cloud storage – and, according to the developers, are deleted from there in 24 hours after being processed in Lensa. 

Lensa’s creators assure that users remain anonymous. The app doesn’t specifically ask them for access to metadata such as geolocation. However, the metadata that identifies the user can be linked to the photo that the person uploads to the app. But the Lensa team promises that photos are cleared of metadata before they are saved to Lensa systems.For now, Lensa AI is available for private use, although it may well offer its services to corporations. To do so, they will need B2B SaaS marketing.

xQc shocked to see his girlfriend making out with an adult film actress on live TV 0 69

Beer pong might be a good idea, what could go wrong? On that basis , streamers xQc and Adin launched the live stream a few days ago without fear of what might happen . Both North American content creators have spent hours playing games with their partners.

The girls in question have a long history online, especially in the case of Sky Bri, Adin’s alleged partner. She is an adult film actress and has participated in various streamers before, always displaying an aggressive and overt sexuality.

After playing beer pong and drinking alcoholic beverages, NYYXXII somehow asked permission to kiss Sky Bri. – May I kiss her? Kayla asked Adina. After a look and another question to his partner, NYYXXII approached Sky Bri to eventually kiss her with an implied passion that undoubtedly influenced the young Canadian streamer.

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