I’m a dating coach and these are the six red flags that show your date is only after sex 0 247

DATING is tough, especially when you don’t know if the person you’re speaking to wants the same things as you.

If you’re looking for more than just a romp in the sack but aren’t convinced your date is on the same page, then our expert’s tips will help you suss it out.

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Dating expert Persia Lawson shares the six red flags to look out for if you’re worried they only want one thing…

They booty call you

Persia said: “Let’s start with the most obvious. You get that text late on a Saturday night, with a: ‘What are you up to?’

“If they say they’ll send an Uber for you or head over to yours, but they’re never interested in meeting up in the day… then they’ve definitely shown you that they just want sex.


“It’s obvious that this is just a booty call at the end of the night when they’ve not scored with anyone else.”

They pile on the pressure

Persia said: “Getting that feeling of pressure is a red flag. They might be physically forward with you very early on or making little sexual innuendos or jokes.

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“They may make you feel uneasy that they’re being too forward and that could make you feel uncomfortable.

“When you’re with them the interactions could be physical, but when they’re messaging if they constantly reference sex and it’s always at the forefront of the dynamic, that’s not a good sign.”

They say they ‘just want a bit of fun’

Persia said: “If they tell you they’re looking for just a bit of fun or not looking for anything serious.

“Sometimes this happens when someone has just come out of a serious relationship.

“But if they say something along those lines to you, don’t waste your time. They’re clearly just looking for a cheeky night and not a commitment.

“A lot of people, particularly women, don’t want to acknowledge that so they try and steer it down a deeper more serious route, but it doesn’t work.

“If they say they’re not looking for anything serious – what they’re really saying is: ‘I just want to bonk and bounce’!”

The conversation is surface level

Persia said: “Someone who keeps the contact or dynamic at surface level is probably only looking for one type of intimacy.

“They may be quite superficial with their conversation and they may not be making an effort to know you on a deeper level.

“Sometimes people will still ask the obvious questions but chatting can feel rushed and not very personal.

“On the other hand, there are people who want to make you think they’re really deep but they’re actually luring you in with a false sense of security so that you open up and sleep with them.

“So either they’re very direct and surface level or they go too deep and they act like they’re really vulnerable.”

They dodge the group hang

Persia said: “Watch out for people who aren’t interested in hanging out with your friends or even having you to hang out with their friends.

“Some people cancel at the last minute and show no interest in connecting with you outside of just the two of you, because they just want sex.

“It sounds really horrible but I’ve seen it from time to time where someone is embarrassed of the person they’re with and don’t want their friends to find out.

“They can present that as: ‘I just love it being us’ as if they’re really into you.

“But actually if someone wants more than sex with you they’re really excited for you to meet their friends and family.”

They don’t spend any money

Persia said: “If someone’s just looking for sex, they’re not really interested in impressing you and investing in you in the same way they would be if they really liked you. So they can be a bit stingy.

“I’ve seen this with people who are sleeping around a lot, because they have so many dates they can’t afford to splash the cash on everyone.

“But the minute they meet someone they really like, they’ll be happy to open their wallet.”

Persia Lawson’s book Love Is Coming: How To Find Real Love In A Superficial World is out now.

Want more dating tips? This dating expert revealed the personality trait that makes you the most “desirable” and the two that will struggle with love.

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Porn and Mental Health: The Challenges and Strategies for Coping in the Industry 0 178

Pornography is a billion-dollar industry that has gained widespread popularity across the globe. However, while it may be a source of entertainment for some, the industry can be challenging for performers’ mental health. The pressure to perform and meet the expectations of producers and viewers can take a toll on performers’ mental wellbeing. In this article, we’ll explore the challenges that the porn industry poses to mental health and strategies for coping with them.

The Challenges

  1. Stigma and Shame

The porn industry is still stigmatized, and performers can face a lot of shame and judgment from society. This can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, making it difficult for performers to seek help and support when needed.

  1. Pressure to Perform

Performers in the porn industry are expected to meet certain expectations and perform at their best every time. This pressure can be overwhelming and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

  1. Isolation and Loneliness

Performing in the porn industry can be a lonely experience, with performers spending long hours on set or on their own, away from friends and family. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which can take a toll on mental health.

  1. Trauma and Abuse

The porn industry is not immune to issues such as sexual harassment, assault, and exploitation. Performers may experience these traumatic events, leading to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression.

Strategies for Coping

Seek Professional Help

Performers in the porn industry should seek professional help and support when they need it. There are many therapists and counselors who specialize in working with performers in the industry and can help with issues such as anxiety, depression, and trauma.

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is crucial for performers in the porn industry. Taking breaks when needed, exercising, and practicing mindfulness and meditation can help performers manage stress and promote mental wellbeing.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Having a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues can make a big difference in performers’ mental health. Surrounding yourself with people who understand the challenges of the industry and offer non-judgmental support can help performers cope with the stresses of the job.

Address Trauma and Abuse

Performers who have experienced trauma and abuse in the industry should seek support and address these issues head-on. This may involve therapy, reporting incidents to the authorities, and taking legal action if necessary.


The porn industry poses significant challenges to performers’ mental health, from stigma and shame to pressure to perform and trauma and abuse. However, with the right strategies, performers can cope with these challenges and maintain good mental wellbeing. Seeking professional help, practicing self-care, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and addressing trauma and abuse are just a few strategies that can help performers in the porn industry maintain good mental health.

Navigating Consent and Boundaries in the Porn Industry: A Guide for Newcomers 0 165

Consent and boundaries are crucial aspects of the porn industry, and it’s essential for newcomers to understand how to navigate these issues. In this article, we’ll provide a guide for those who are new to the industry on how to approach consent and boundaries in a professional and respectful manner.

First and foremost, it’s important to understand that consent is always required in the porn industry. This means that every actor must give explicit and enthusiastic consent to any sexual act that is portrayed on camera. Consent can be given verbally or non-verbally, but it must always be clear and enthusiastic.

In order to ensure that consent is obtained, communication is key. Actors should have open and honest conversations with their scene partners and the director prior to filming. They should discuss what they are comfortable with and what their boundaries are, as well as any specific instructions or concerns.

It’s also important for actors to feel empowered to set their own boundaries and to speak up if they feel uncomfortable or unsafe during filming. This means that if an actor does not want to perform a particular act or if they feel that their boundaries are being pushed, they have the right to stop the scene and speak to the director about their concerns.

It’s also essential for actors to be aware of their own physical and emotional limits. This means that they should take breaks as needed, communicate with their scene partner and director about any discomfort or pain, and engage in self-care practices to ensure that they are physically and emotionally prepared for the demands of the job.

Finally, it’s important for actors to have a support system in place. This can include talking to other actors who have experience in the industry, seeking out counseling or therapy, and having trusted friends and family members who can provide emotional support.

Navigating consent and boundaries in the porn industry can be challenging, but it’s an essential part of maintaining a safe and respectful work environment. By following these guidelines, newcomers to the industry can ensure that they are approaching these issues in a professional and responsible manner.

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