I ditched dull boyfriend for wild weekly sex parties – I’ve had best orgasms at hotel orgies but pals don’t approve 0 242

STUCK in a rut of work, evenings in front of the TV and “ordinary” sex, bored Dana Humphrey bravely decided to make a change.

After breaking up with her long-term boyfriend Adil in 2015, the 39-year-old decided to focus on herself and signed up for a healing workshop.

Sunsational StoriesDana Humphrey felt stuck in a rut[/caption] Sunsational StoriesAfter signing up to a healing course, she met a doctor who introduced her to sex parties[/caption]

It was there she met Jessie, a GP she nicknamed “The Doctor”, who introduced Dana to a whole new, liberating world of sex parties, orgies with strangers and a polyamorous lifestyle.

Dana, a college marketing professor from New York, says: “I’d always been the monogamous type.

“My sex life had always been pretty good, but predictable, and very average, looking back.

“Then my world was transformed when I met Jessie who introduced me to a new way of life that opened up so many doors and emotions. I loved the polyamory lifestyle.”

Dana had four long-term boyfriends before she met Jessie. 

She met ex Adil in a bar, and told how they barely ever had sex other than in the missionary position because he wasn’t open to suggestions to spice it up.

After the break-up, stress caused Dana to develop a stomach ulcer, and she explored different ways to heal that weren’t so conventional, including meditation.

She signed-up for a two-day healing course – and that’s when she encountered Jessie.

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“The moment she walked into the room I was like – who is that?” recalls Dana. 

“She had such a presence and she was so dressed-up. She gave me a ride to a group dinner after a massage session where I sat with her.

“We became friends and spent a lot of time together. I loved being around Jessie – she had so much life in her, she was incredibly open-minded and that was something I had never experienced.”

‘The Lifestyle’

Jessie introduced Dana to “The Lifestyle” – a term for a worldwide community of couples and single people who meet to have casual sex regularly with strangers.

The Lifestyle is considered to be an alternative health workshop and Dana was intrigued.

“Jessie told me that she had slept with more than 100 people at these special events,” recalls Dana. 

“I just thought, oh my gosh, how could anyone actually do that?

“She had a little black book of partners she met-up with and she asked me to go along to one of the sex parties at a club called Decadence in New York where we would eventually have sex with other men, and then play with each other.

I had some of the best sex I’ve ever had that night, along with multiple orgasms

Dana Humphrey

“I remember I wanted to impress Jessie, so I agreed. 

“The first time we went to a party, she walked into the ‘snack’ room and I walked straight into the ‘play-room’, where I made a beeline for a man I was attracted to and started pleasuring him, without all the small talk.

“It was so easy and a lot of fun. Everyone in there was already stripped down so you could see what their bodies looked like. 

“I had some of the best sex I’ve ever had that night, along with multiple orgasms.

“I fell in love with The Lifestyle – it was fun, edgy and rebellious. 

“Jessie once said that I looked like a fish back in water, and that’s exactly how I felt.”

Hotel orgies

Sunsational StoriesDana says sex with strangers is liberating[/caption]

When the owner of Decadence passed away, the club was shut down, so Dana and Jessie attended sex parties in hotels.

They also arranged weekly sex parties at their houses where they would romp with multiple lovers and then touch each other.

They dated for two years. During their time together, they attended incredible sex orgies at hotels in New York and New Jersey. Sometimes whole floors were rented out.

Being polyamorous – the act of having multiple relationships with the consent of everyone taking part – became a joyful and fulfilling way of life for Dana.

“Often there were way more men than women, so we had a lot of guys to choose from,” says Dana. 

Having multiple orgasms in a night was very good for me. My skin glowed, I had a lot of energy and I slept better than ever before

Dana Humphrey

“It was very liberating and those guys knew exactly what they were doing to pleasure us girls.

“Having multiple orgasms in a night was very good for me. My skin glowed, I had a lot of energy, I slept better than ever before and I was generally in a very good mood all of the time.

“I’d always been the serial monogamist but now I was experiencing many different lovers in a safe environment.

“My confidence grew and I discovered early on that I was bisexual.”

Dana and Jessie dated for two years but split-up in January 2018. 

Pals don’t approve

Now single, Dana is in the market for a partner – male or female – who supports the polyamory lifestyle she loves so much.

She’s using dating apps like Her and Freed and she has written a book based on her sexual choices, called May All Beings Be Fed.

Many of her friends and family didn’t know about her sexual preferences until her book was released, and she’s had a mixed response.

She says: “I told my parents never to read my book. I’m not sure they could cope with it! 

“I’ve had a couple of girlfriends who voiced their concerns about my lifestyle.

Anyone who can’t try to understand my choices in life aren’t really friends at all… I would love people to learn from me

Dana Humphrey

“I’d always felt that they were homophobic, and this proves it, but I just think that anyone who can’t try to understand my choices in life aren’t really friends at all.

“I think being polyamorous has made me less worried about being judged. 

“I am truly happy with my choices and I love the journey I am on. I am so grateful I can enjoy sexual freedom.

“I would love people to learn from me. Why limit yourself to one sexual partner at a time when there are so many more wonderful choices out there?

“I know that the polyamorous lifestyle is something that a lot of people can’t understand because it’s not conventional, but I say try whatever makes you happy – I’m so glad that I did.”

Sunsational StoriesDana says friends have questioned her lifestyle[/caption] Sunsational StoriesHaving written a book about her life choices, Dana hopes people can learn from her[/caption]

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

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He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

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Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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