PREMATURE ejaculation is a very common situation, and can be a source of embarrassment – but there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Here are some tips for making sex last longer and treatment available for those who require it…
A third of men experience premature ejaculation and it is extremely commonAlamy
What causes premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is the name given when a man ejaculates either before, or a very short time after, entering the vagina.
It’s a major concern for many blokes, with 30 per cent of lads reporting to have been affected by the condition last year.
According to the NHS, a number of psychological and physical factors can cause premature ejaculation.
Physical reasons include prostate problems, thyroid problems and recreational drugs.
Experts have revealed that men with bigger bellies last longer in bedAlamy
Meanwhile psychological problems include depression, stress, relationship problems or anxiety about sexual performance.
A study has shown that the size of a man’s stomach may well be a better indicator of how long he can keep it going in the sack.
The research comes from scientists at Erciyes University in Turkey, who now believe that larger men make better lovers because they’ve got more sexual stamina.
The researchers studied 200 men; comparing their body mass index (BMI) to their sexual performance.
Interestingly, the result showed that fatter men with bigger bellies lasted longer in bed then their svelte counterparts.
In fact, men with visible belly fat and a higher BMI could get down to it for an average 7.3 minutes, while slimmer men lasted an average of 1.8 minutes in the sack and were more likely to suffer from premature ejaculation.
The scientists thought that the reason behind larger lads lasting longer is that they have higher levels of the female sex hormone oestradiol, which may disrupt the body’s chemical balance and inhibits them from climaxing for longer.
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How can you treat premature ejaculation?
There are a number of things you can do before seeking professional help.
According to the NHS, it can sometimes help to:
- masturbate an hour or two before having sex
- use a thick condom to help decrease the sensation
- take a deep breath to briefly shut down the ejaculatory reflex (an automatic reflex of the body during which ejaculation occurs)
- have sex with your partner on top (to allow them to pull away when you are close to ejaculating)
- take breaks during sex and think about something boring
If you do require treatment, this can be in the form of behavioural techniques, topical anaesthetics, counselling or medication.
A doctor may order blood tests to check the levels of testosterone, and you may be referred to a urologist or sexual dysfunction specialist.
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How to make sex last longer?
Ian Kerner became a sex therapist after curing himself of his problem, and went on to write a book about pleasing women in bed, titled ‘She Comes First’.
Here are Ian’s three methods for mastering longer sex-sessions.
Master the mini-orgasm
In an article for Men’s Health, Ian explains that men should “practice masturbating nearly to the point of ejaculation, and then stop”.
He adds that guys will be able to tell they’ve reached the mini-orgasm phase because they will experience one or two small pelvic contractions – but won’t fully ejaculate.
Once familiar with this method, it’s time to use it during sex to ease the tension mid-bonk – allowing you to last longer without ejaculating.
Make your penis a sex toy
Ian reckons that perpendicular sex positions, that allow guys to stimulate a woman’s clitoris without penetration, are favourable.
He said: “As you each lie on your side facing each other, create a 90-degree angle between your shaft and her vulva.
“Instead of penetrating, press your shaft lengthwise against her clitoris and gently move it back and forth.”
Try using a numbing spray
If all else fails, try purchasing a numbing spray – these delay ejaculation and can increase bedroom lasting power by up to two minutes.
One study even found that men could for as long as 11 minutes after a few sprays.