DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my boyfriend kisses me, it feels like he’s kissing his grandma.
Instead of a proper snog, all I get is a quick peck on the cheek.
The grandma kisses are such a turn-off
The only time he kisses me enthusiastically on the mouth is during sex.
We’ve been together for four years. I’m 26 and he’s 30.
Sex with him is OK, but it feels a bit like a chore.
I want real passion, like I had with past boyfriends.
We used to kiss for hours and it was so exciting.
My boyfriend never compliments me.
I want to be made to feel super sexy and attractive – and the grandma kisses are such a turn-off.
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I was hoping this would get better with time, but if anything it’s got worse.
What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You do need to tell your boyfriend what you are telling me.
While he sounds like a selfish lover, he may just be clueless about what you enjoy.
Compatibility is not always instant. It sounds like he’s stuck in a sexual routine that has worked for him in the past.
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