DEAR DEIDRE: WHILE I’m having sex with my new girlfriend, I fantasise that I’m doing it with a man.
The best sex I ever had was with another guy, so now I’m wondering if I’m gay.
I thought I was straight, but got drunk at a party and ended up in bed with a guy
I’m 19 and have always had girlfriends.
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I thought I was straight. But recently I got very drunk at a party and ended up in a bedroom with a guy.
I climaxed far faster doing foreplay with him than I ever had during full sex with my girl.
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The “illicit” thrill of being with a man could have made you feel more excited.
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