How do I tell my wife I can’t get an erection because I’m heartbroken? 0 166

DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I tell my wife that I can’t get an erection because I’m heartbroken?

I was having an affair with a married woman but she ended it six months ago. I still think about her every day.

I think my only option is to come clean and deal with the consequences

I’m 52, and my wife’s 56. We’ve been together for 25 years.

I’m a freelance accountant and met my lover, 49, when she employed me to help with her boutique’s books.

It was obvious from the start she fancied me – she wasn’t subtle about it.

Before long, we’d started an affair. I’d book an extra few hours out and we’d have sex in the back room.

Then one day she texted me to say it was over. She didn’t like lying to her husband.

Get in touch with Deidre

Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

Send an email to

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.

My wife and I have always had a healthy sex life, but since the breakup I haven’t been able to get it up – even with Viagra.

I think my only option is to come clean and deal with the consequences.

Most read in Dear Deidre


I'm so desperate to have a baby I’m even considering seducing my stepdad


Tim keeps it in the family as he flirts with his step-daughter


I was abused at school 45 years ago and cannot move past it


I am so lonely it is making me depressed and I feel like ending it all


Stroke has destroyed my partner's life – and mine too, I want to leave


My mum is a chronic liar & I am better off without her but I can't cut the cord

DEIDRE SAYS: If you are considering coming clean purely so you can enjoy a healthy sex life, you need to rethink.

Will this knowledge really help you get your relationship back on track?

If this is the goal, you’d be better off explaining to your wife that you feel your relationship is stagnating.



Mags’ secret lesbian kiss with neighbour is revealed by her boyfriend


I feel like my fella’s dirty little secret as he’s embarrassed by our age gap

Plan some time away together and turn your focus on to her.

If you don’t want to continue in your marriage any more, you owe it to your wife to admit that your heart isn’t in your relationship any longer.

Previous ArticleNext Article

Supporting Ukraine Through Purchasing Power: The Initiatives Keeping the Country’s Economy Afloat 0 173

Amidst the Russian invasion, Ukrainian creatives are launching initiatives to keep the country’s economy going by harnessing consumer power. Spend With Ukraine is one such online resource that connects consumers to Ukraine-based businesses across various industries, while the Ukrainian Emergency Art Fund allows for donations to support artists. Co-founder of Spend With Ukraine, Andrey Klen, emphasizes the importance of supporting the Ukrainian economy through purchasing decisions. He states, “Armies win battles, but economies win wars.”

Ukrainian brands are still operating and many are donating a portion of their sales to different needs to support the country. To sustain interest in supporting Ukraine through spending, increasing the visibility of these initiatives is key. As Klen says, “We want it to blow out.” These efforts not only help Ukrainian creatives but also support existing industries and provide a sense of normality in these difficult times.

Ensuring Safety and Consent in the Adult Film Industry: A Vital Discussion 0 259

One topic that may be of interest to readers in the adult film industry is the topic of workplace safety and consent.

The adult film industry, like any other industry, has a responsibility to ensure the safety and well-being of its workers. This includes providing a safe working environment, protecting workers from physical and emotional harm, and ensuring that all acts are consensual. However, the nature of the adult film industry can make it difficult to ensure that these standards are met. Actors and actresses may feel pressure to perform acts that they are not comfortable with, and there have been instances of abuse and exploitation in the industry.

To address these issues, it is essential for the industry to have clear guidelines and policies in place to protect the rights and safety of workers. This includes providing education and resources for performers, implementing strict consent protocols, and holding producers and directors accountable for ensuring a safe working environment.

Another important aspect of this topic is the importance of consent in adult film. Consent is a crucial aspect of any sexual encounter and must be obtained freely, enthusiastically, and without coercion. In the adult film industry, where performers are engaging in sexual acts on camera, it is especially important that consent is explicitly obtained and respected. This can be achieved through the use of consent forms and communication between performers before and during filming.

By discussing these topics, the industry can work towards creating a safer and more respectful environment for all performers and ensure that the rights and well-being of workers are protected.

Most Popular Topics

Editor Picks