How do I tell my wife I can’t get an erection because I’m heartbroken? 0 113

DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I tell my wife that I can’t get an erection because I’m heartbroken?

I was having an affair with a married woman but she ended it six months ago. I still think about her every day.

I think my only option is to come clean and deal with the consequences

I’m 52, and my wife’s 56. We’ve been together for 25 years.

I’m a freelance accountant and met my lover, 49, when she employed me to help with her boutique’s books.

It was obvious from the start she fancied me – she wasn’t subtle about it.

Before long, we’d started an affair. I’d book an extra few hours out and we’d have sex in the back room.

Then one day she texted me to say it was over. She didn’t like lying to her husband.

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My wife and I have always had a healthy sex life, but since the breakup I haven’t been able to get it up – even with Viagra.

I think my only option is to come clean and deal with the consequences.

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DEIDRE SAYS: If you are considering coming clean purely so you can enjoy a healthy sex life, you need to rethink.

Will this knowledge really help you get your relationship back on track?

If this is the goal, you’d be better off explaining to your wife that you feel your relationship is stagnating.



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Plan some time away together and turn your focus on to her.

If you don’t want to continue in your marriage any more, you owe it to your wife to admit that your heart isn’t in your relationship any longer.

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Lensa AI app could be used to create erotica or porn 0 42

In recent days, the Lensa app, a service that uses a neural network to create drawn portraits, has gone viral. To generate drawings, you have to upload 10 to 20 of your portrait photos to the app, from which the program will generate an avatar. But the app has proven easy to trick so that it creates soft porn.

Internet users say that if you upload topless photos to Lensa, the app disables the NSFW filter and generates nudes. 

In general, the idea of uploading your photos to a questionable app seems bad to many. The owners of the service assure that users’ photos are deleted after 24 hours, but it is impossible to check whether this is true. In addition, such services have repeatedly allowed leaks of users’ personal data.

The Lensa application is a SaaS product of Russian developers Prisma Labs. This is especially disturbing for the residents of Ukraine, where the application has also gone viral: Ukrainian journalists urge citizens not to give their personal data to Russians, because considering the work of Russian special services, no one can guarantee a sufficient level of security when using programs written by the enemy. To use Lensa, each user has to accept the rules – to agree to the training of the neural network in order for it to work more correctly. Photos go to Google Cloud Platform or Amazon Web Services cloud storage – and, according to the developers, are deleted from there in 24 hours after being processed in Lensa. 

Lensa’s creators assure that users remain anonymous. The app doesn’t specifically ask them for access to metadata such as geolocation. However, the metadata that identifies the user can be linked to the photo that the person uploads to the app. But the Lensa team promises that photos are cleared of metadata before they are saved to Lensa systems.For now, Lensa AI is available for private use, although it may well offer its services to corporations. To do so, they will need B2B SaaS marketing.

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Beer pong might be a good idea, what could go wrong? On that basis , streamers xQc and Adin launched the live stream a few days ago without fear of what might happen . Both North American content creators have spent hours playing games with their partners.

The girls in question have a long history online, especially in the case of Sky Bri, Adin’s alleged partner. She is an adult film actress and has participated in various streamers before, always displaying an aggressive and overt sexuality.

After playing beer pong and drinking alcoholic beverages, NYYXXII somehow asked permission to kiss Sky Bri. – May I kiss her? Kayla asked Adina. After a look and another question to his partner, NYYXXII approached Sky Bri to eventually kiss her with an implied passion that undoubtedly influenced the young Canadian streamer.

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