DEAR DEIDRE: MY best mate’s wife yawned, stretching her arms over her head and exposing her armpit hair . . . and now I’m desperate to find out what she looks like naked.
I’m a guy of 33, married with a good relationship and a great sex life.
I fantasised about my friend’s wife, thinking about kissing her hairy legs
My wife spends a lot of time and money on her appearance and is very well groomed.
What she doesn’t know about me is that I have a fetish for hairy women.
When my pal’s wife exposed her under-arms like that at their barbeque, I followed her into the house and started flirting with her.
She’s 35 and she seemed to like the attention.
I’m a plumber so I told her to call me if she ever needed anything sorting and I gave her my card.
She winked at me and said that she would.
Now I can’t stop fantasising about her.
My parents were hard-working people and I think my fetish may stem from them hiring a nanny for my brother and me.
Our nanny was German, gorgeous – and hairy.
She never seemed to use deodorant and when I was around 12, I broke my arm and she held me very close in the back of the car on the way to the hospital.
I remember smelling her and getting those first feelings of arousal.
She was kind and caring, and I think my love of women who let it all hang out came from her.
I have had sex with my wife a couple of times since, and I’ve fantasised about my friend’s wife, thinking about taking her to bed and kissing her hairy legs and other parts of her body.
I even suggested to my wife she let her hair grow, for a more natural look.
She was horrified and refused to cancel her regular waxes, manicures or fake tans.
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I’m gutted as it would be a big turn-on for me to have sex when she’s looks and smells more natural.
If my wife won’t do it, should I visit my mate’s wife?
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DEIDRE SAYS: No, definitely not.
You could well have misread the signs from her and she could tell her husband.
You would be crossing a red line and jeopardising your marriage.
Your fantasies are no doubt connected with your closeness to your childhood nanny.
Rather than asking her to let her body hair grow full stop, perhaps she’d consider being a little more relaxed on the grooming front?
If it’s still a ‘no’ try to find something else which gives you those same thrills and suggest that instead.
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