I have a fetish for hairy women and my best mate’s wife is just my type 0 44

DEAR DEIDRE: MY best mate’s wife yawned, stretching her arms over her head and exposing her armpit hair . . . and now I’m desperate to find out what she looks like naked.

I’m a guy of 33, married with a good relationship and a great sex life.

I fantasised about my friend’s wife, thinking about kissing her hairy legs

My wife spends a lot of time and money on her appearance and is very well groomed.

What she doesn’t know about me is that I have a fetish for hairy women.

When my pal’s wife exposed her under-arms like that at their barbeque, I followed her into the house and started flirting with her.

She’s 35 and she seemed to like the attention.

I’m a plumber so I told her to call me if she ever needed anything sorting and I gave her my card.

She winked at me and said that she would.

Now I can’t stop fantasising about her.

My parents were hard-working people and I think my fetish may stem from them hiring a nanny for my brother and me.

Our nanny was German, gorgeous – and hairy.

She never seemed to use deodorant and when I was around 12, I broke my arm and she held me very close in the back of the car on the way to the hospital.

I remember smelling her and getting those first feelings of arousal.

She was kind and caring, and I think my love of women who let it all hang out came from her.

I have had sex with my wife a couple of times since, and I’ve fantasised about my friend’s wife, thinking about taking her to bed and kissing her hairy legs and other parts of her body.

I even suggested to my wife she let her hair grow, for a more natural look.

She was horrified and refused to cancel her regular waxes, manicures or fake tans.

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I’m gutted as it would be a big turn-on for me to have sex when she’s looks and smells more natural.

If my wife won’t do it, should I visit my mate’s wife?

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DEIDRE SAYS: No, definitely not.

You could well have misread the signs from her and she could tell her husband.

You would be crossing a red line and jeopardising your marriage.

Your fantasies are no doubt connected with your closeness to your childhood nanny.

Rather than asking her to let her body hair grow full stop, perhaps she’d consider being a little more relaxed on the grooming front?

If it’s still a ‘no’ try to find something else which gives you those same thrills and suggest that instead.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 28

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

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