DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD sex with a guy before we even went on our first date – but he then ended it.
I’m a woman of 30. I joined a dating site and started talking to a man aged 32. He was just out of a relationship.
We ended up in bed before going out for dinner
For hours on end we chatted and wanted to develop things.
We had a date planned but I spontaneously went to see him.
The chemistry was explosive face-to-face. My body and soul ached for him.
We ended up in bed before going out for dinner.
We then spent a weekend together at my place and he was passionate and funny.
He went home and I texted him, asking how he felt about our future.
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But he called me back and said: “What do you want me to say? That you’re my girlfriend? My wife? You’re overthinking everything.”
He then said I reminded him of his ex and we were over. I’m heartbroken.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry. He may have wanted a relationship initially but it might have seemed too much, too soon for him.
However, his aggressive reaction to your message tells you a lot about his character.
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