I know I’m great in bed, so why is my girlfriend avoiding sex? 0 139

DEAR DEIDRE: I TAKE pride in my bedroom skills and ensure I really understand women’s pleasure, but now I think my ­girlfriend is playing games with me to avoid intimacy.

I’ve read the Kama Sutra, The Joy Of Sex and Come As You Are, as well as plenty of other related books.

I really want us to work together but I can’t live a sexless life

I’ve only had three partners but all of them have said they were very satisfied with our sex life.

My second girlfriend had never orgasmed so I made it my mission to understand her body completely so we both could enjoy sex.

She trusted me and together we explored her body.

We both learned what she liked and didn’t, until we had a great time in bed.

I’ve been with my current girlfriend for seven years and we have a daughter of five.

She never had any issue with climaxing and we used to have sex five or six times a week at least.

We were so in tune with each other but now I feel like we are on completely different pages.

I do all the touchy-feely stuff that women love when it comes to sex, but I keep getting shown the red card.

She only ever wants sex, which is once in a blue moon, when I’m dog tired and falling asleep.

On the rare occasion she seems to be in the mood for a bit of a kiss and a ­cuddle, as soon as I go in close she shuts me down. I feel like she’s ­playing games.

We are both 31 now — I know we are parents but I’m far too young to give up sex.

Obviously when our daughter was born my girl didn’t want to know for a few months, which was fine.

Then our sex life picked up again but over the past year it’s dropped off a cliff.

I really want us to work together but I can’t live a sexless life.

Get in touch with Deidre

Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.

What can I do?

I came from a broken home and didn’t have the best start. I’m ­determined that it won’t be like that for my daughter.

Most read in Dear Deidre


My lover can't choose between me and her husband – should I tell him the truth?


I'm pregnant with my love rat ex's child but I don't want him in my life


Why does a woman who used to flirt with me all the time now walk straight by?


Bobby and his girlfriend move into new home and meet their neighbours


I joined my ex for threesome with his new girlfriend and I have fallen for her


I went into business with closest pal – but he started ripping me off

DEIDRE SAYS: A good sex life is about compromise.

If your girlfriend is playing games, coming on to you when she knows you won’t want sex, then it lets her off the hook, and that’s not fair.

You’re a couple, not just Mum and Dad, so explain to her how important it is for you to show her how much you love her.

Everyone has expectations about what is the “normal” number of times to have sex but it should be more about quality sex than quantity.



Jay tries to win his girlfriend’s mum Tanya over


A new episode of the Dear Deidre podcast is available TODAY

Think about what would suit you and what you could change. Ask her what she would like too.

My support pack Different Sex Drives has great practical tips.

Previous ArticleNext Article

Supporting Ukraine Through Purchasing Power: The Initiatives Keeping the Country’s Economy Afloat 0 173

Amidst the Russian invasion, Ukrainian creatives are launching initiatives to keep the country’s economy going by harnessing consumer power. Spend With Ukraine is one such online resource that connects consumers to Ukraine-based businesses across various industries, while the Ukrainian Emergency Art Fund allows for donations to support artists. Co-founder of Spend With Ukraine, Andrey Klen, emphasizes the importance of supporting the Ukrainian economy through purchasing decisions. He states, “Armies win battles, but economies win wars.”

Ukrainian brands are still operating and many are donating a portion of their sales to different needs to support the country. To sustain interest in supporting Ukraine through spending, increasing the visibility of these initiatives is key. As Klen says, “We want it to blow out.” These efforts not only help Ukrainian creatives but also support existing industries and provide a sense of normality in these difficult times.

Ensuring Safety and Consent in the Adult Film Industry: A Vital Discussion 0 258

One topic that may be of interest to readers in the adult film industry is the topic of workplace safety and consent.

The adult film industry, like any other industry, has a responsibility to ensure the safety and well-being of its workers. This includes providing a safe working environment, protecting workers from physical and emotional harm, and ensuring that all acts are consensual. However, the nature of the adult film industry can make it difficult to ensure that these standards are met. Actors and actresses may feel pressure to perform acts that they are not comfortable with, and there have been instances of abuse and exploitation in the industry.

To address these issues, it is essential for the industry to have clear guidelines and policies in place to protect the rights and safety of workers. This includes providing education and resources for performers, implementing strict consent protocols, and holding producers and directors accountable for ensuring a safe working environment.

Another important aspect of this topic is the importance of consent in adult film. Consent is a crucial aspect of any sexual encounter and must be obtained freely, enthusiastically, and without coercion. In the adult film industry, where performers are engaging in sexual acts on camera, it is especially important that consent is explicitly obtained and respected. This can be achieved through the use of consent forms and communication between performers before and during filming.

By discussing these topics, the industry can work towards creating a safer and more respectful environment for all performers and ensure that the rights and well-being of workers are protected.

Most Popular Topics

Editor Picks