DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I have been together for nine years and she’s never given me any reason to feel insecure – until we bumped into a much younger man who she had once slept with.
I just knew there was something amiss when we saw him at the cinema one evening.
The thought of her with him is driving me mad
Listen to the NEW Dear Deidre podcast
Resident agony aunt Sally Land is taking The Sun's legendary advice column from the page to podcast.
Each week, Sally will be joined by an expert and some of your favourite celebs to give helpful, entertaining advice to listener problems.
A brand new episode will be available every THURSDAY.
Listen HERE, or wherever you get your podcasts.
We’d gone out to watch the new Top Gun when this man spotted her sitting two rows in front.
They had a little chat, but she became visibly flustered.
For the whole film she was fidgeting.
Afterwards she admitted she’d had a fling with him ten years ago and they’d slept together a few times.
Get in touch with Deidre
Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.
Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.
I’m 53, she’s 51 and this man is 39!
I’ve asked her about their relationship but she insists that I need to forget it.
Most read in Dear Deidre
I married Mr Perfect then IVF woes drove me to sex with 'bad boy'
Partner is not speaking to me because I won't go swinging with her
My mistress dumped me because I didn't go to her mum's funeral
Knowing I have to leave my daughter alone with her dad is making me anxious
IN MY DREAMS
I'm having vivid sex dreams about my son's teacher
You saved my relationship and my sex life
DEIDRE SAYS: She had met this man before you and has never given you any reason to feel insecure.
Perhaps her reluctance to discuss this relationship is because you are showing an unhealthy interest in it?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
NOW I’M LOST
Dying dad told me ‘mum’ isn’t my real parent and I don’t know who to believe
Far better to focus on your wife and enjoy your life together.
It is completely normal for you both to have had a past before you got together