I’m a sexpert – here’s what your favourite sex position says about you and why old habits might be holding you back 0 40

A SEX coach has revealed what a couple’s favourite sex position says about their relationship…

Most couples have a sex position they love the most – whether it’s doggy, 69, or lotus.

GettyDoes your favourite sex position say something about your relationship? Kaitlin Klarer revealed[/caption]

But can the go-to also reveal something more about the relationship?

To find out, Fabulous spoke to Kaitlin Klarer — a 31-year-old sex coach from the US and creator of Watch Girls Watch Porn on PornHub’s wellness channel.

read more relationship stories

DEAR DEIDRE

I am obsessed with tracking down women my husband has had secret sex with

WED THIS

I was conned by my husband, 10 months after we married I found out he was a WOMAN

According to Kaitlin, who also revealed five ways you can improve your sex life, the go-to position is usually determined by the relationship dynamics, the anatomy, as well as your sex habits.

Although there are a lot of articles out there about different sex positions and what they mean, the guru described it as a ”bunch of bull***t” that feels ”very made-up”.

However, there are also some generalised aspects, she pointed out, that can be true.

Most read in Fabulous

THICK SKIN

I'm a size 22 & proud – sick trolls tell me to cover up but it doesn't stop me

BRIDE CRIED

I got a manicure for my wedding – it was so bad, I painted my own nails at 1am

WATER FIGHT

Woman comes up with way to stop her neighbours’ kids peeking through her fence

HITTING BACK

I live in a council house & I’ve no intention of leaving it to buy my own

HAIR THIS

I flew to Turkey & they did my hair & nails but it made me feel more insecure

HOLD COURT

I was kicked off jury due 'inappropriate' outfit but don't see why it's wrong

Lotus & missionary

For instance, if a couple likes face-to-face, such as the lotus or missionary, that means the parties are more keen to connect with their partner.

”It’s kind of like lovey-dovey, it’s like in the movies where you’re paying attention to your partner […] and it’s very romantic.”

FABULOUS BINGO: Get a £20 bonus & 30 free spins when you spend £10 today

Doggy

Doggy – the top position in the US and the second most popular here, in the UK – is the most performed sex position for a few reasons.

Sharing her expertise, Kaitlin said that for men, the doggy is the fastest way to ”get off”, whereas for women – though they might enjoy it – this position is more often than not the quickest way to ‘get it over and done with’.

Cowgirl

In sharp contrast, if a woman prefers to be on top, Kaitlin says she: ”likes to be in control of her own pleasure”.

”That may be somebody who likes to be in more charge in the bedroom,” she explains.

”But that does not necessarily reflect anything about the coupleship – because there’s times where someone’s in the charge in the bedroom but they’re submissive in real life, or vice versa.”

Kaitlin KlarerThe whizz revealed the ins and outs of the most popular sex positions[/caption]

69 & the cartwheel

When it comes to more experimental positions – like the 69 or the cartwheel – Kaitlin claims these couples like to experiment.

Anatomy

But it’s not all so simple.

Kaitlin claims that anatomy plays ”an even bigger role”.

For example, if a guy has a smaller penis, not every position is going to satisfy him.

And if your partner has a bigger penis, some positions may hurt the other person so care needs to be taken.

Women with shorter vaginal canals might also prefer certain positions,

Kaitlin KlarerKaitlin is a sex coach who has a Master’s degree in counselling[/caption]

Habits

Old habits die hard – and sex is no exception.

Chatting to Fabulous, Kaitlin explained that there are many who can reach climax in only one certain position: ”This is a habit that they’ve built up.”

Because you associate this particular position with orgasm and great pleasure you will, of course, also believe this is the favourite of the bunch.

”It doesn’t necessarily have to do anything with our partner – it has to do with our own training.”

This can be changed – however, the journey might initially be frustrating.

”It takes patience and practice.”

Read More on The Sun

SEEING DOUBLE

I’m mum to ‘twins’ born a week apart, they’re not related but look so alike

NOT SAFE FOR PLAY

Our garden fence has been broken for months – my kids can’t play outside

Anyone who is interested in booking a free 15-minute consultation with Kaitlin can book a session online.

Kaitlin is a sex coach who works with both individual males/females and couples with sexual, relational, and intimacy problems.

Getty – ContributorYour favourite sex position is determined by many factors, such as your anatomy[/caption]

Previous ArticleNext Article

My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

Get in touch with Deidre

Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.

Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

Most read in Dear Deidre

DEAR DEIDRE

I want to sleep with my hot neighbour, but I'm worried about our age gap

IN DEEP WATER

My wife thinks it's unreasonable to ask her to wash before wild sex

THE BIG ISSUE

My boyfriend's completely gone off sex since I gained weight

BEG, BORROW OR STEAL?

My neighbour borrowed my shed and refused to pay me for it

DEIDRE'S STORIES

Alfie is feeling awkward after dreaming about his mate's hot wife, Sarah

DEAR DEIDRE

I caught my husband snogging my sister – how am I meant to trust him again?

DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE

DEIDRE’S STORIES

Maya gets the blame after telling dad about her mum’s secret kiss

HEAR DEIDRE

A new episode of the Dear Deidre podcast is available TODAY

You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 28

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

Get in touch with Deidre

Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.

Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

Most read in Dear Deidre

DEAR DEIDRE

I want to sleep with my hot neighbour, but I'm worried about our age gap

IN DEEP WATER

My wife thinks it's unreasonable to ask her to wash before wild sex

THE BIG ISSUE

My boyfriend's completely gone off sex since I gained weight

BEG, BORROW OR STEAL?

My neighbour borrowed my shed and refused to pay me for it

DEIDRE'S STORIES

Alfie is feeling awkward after dreaming about his mate's hot wife, Sarah

DEAR DEIDRE

I caught my husband snogging my sister – how am I meant to trust him again?

DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE

DEIDRE’S STORIES

Maya gets the blame after telling dad about her mum’s secret kiss

HEAR DEIDRE

A new episode of the Dear Deidre podcast is available TODAY

Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

Most Popular Topics

Editor Picks