I’m a sexpert – here’s what your favourite sex position says about you and why old habits might be holding you back 0 223

A SEX coach has revealed what a couple’s favourite sex position says about their relationship…

Most couples have a sex position they love the most – whether it’s doggy, 69, or lotus.

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But can the go-to also reveal something more about the relationship?

To find out, Fabulous spoke to Kaitlin Klarer — a 31-year-old sex coach from the US and creator of Watch Girls Watch Porn on PornHub’s wellness channel.

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According to Kaitlin, who also revealed five ways you can improve your sex life, the go-to position is usually determined by the relationship dynamics, the anatomy, as well as your sex habits.

Although there are a lot of articles out there about different sex positions and what they mean, the guru described it as a ”bunch of bull***t” that feels ”very made-up”.

However, there are also some generalised aspects, she pointed out, that can be true.

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Lotus & missionary

For instance, if a couple likes face-to-face, such as the lotus or missionary, that means the parties are more keen to connect with their partner.

”It’s kind of like lovey-dovey, it’s like in the movies where you’re paying attention to your partner […] and it’s very romantic.”

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Doggy – the top position in the US and the second most popular here, in the UK – is the most performed sex position for a few reasons.

Sharing her expertise, Kaitlin said that for men, the doggy is the fastest way to ”get off”, whereas for women – though they might enjoy it – this position is more often than not the quickest way to ‘get it over and done with’.


In sharp contrast, if a woman prefers to be on top, Kaitlin says she: ”likes to be in control of her own pleasure”.

”That may be somebody who likes to be in more charge in the bedroom,” she explains.

”But that does not necessarily reflect anything about the coupleship – because there’s times where someone’s in the charge in the bedroom but they’re submissive in real life, or vice versa.”

Kaitlin KlarerThe whizz revealed the ins and outs of the most popular sex positions[/caption]

69 & the cartwheel

When it comes to more experimental positions – like the 69 or the cartwheel – Kaitlin claims these couples like to experiment.


But it’s not all so simple.

Kaitlin claims that anatomy plays ”an even bigger role”.

For example, if a guy has a smaller penis, not every position is going to satisfy him.

And if your partner has a bigger penis, some positions may hurt the other person so care needs to be taken.

Women with shorter vaginal canals might also prefer certain positions,

Kaitlin KlarerKaitlin is a sex coach who has a Master’s degree in counselling[/caption]


Old habits die hard – and sex is no exception.

Chatting to Fabulous, Kaitlin explained that there are many who can reach climax in only one certain position: ”This is a habit that they’ve built up.”

Because you associate this particular position with orgasm and great pleasure you will, of course, also believe this is the favourite of the bunch.

”It doesn’t necessarily have to do anything with our partner – it has to do with our own training.”

This can be changed – however, the journey might initially be frustrating.

”It takes patience and practice.”

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Anyone who is interested in booking a free 15-minute consultation with Kaitlin can book a session online.

Kaitlin is a sex coach who works with both individual males/females and couples with sexual, relational, and intimacy problems.

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Porn and Mental Health: The Challenges and Strategies for Coping in the Industry 0 178

Pornography is a billion-dollar industry that has gained widespread popularity across the globe. However, while it may be a source of entertainment for some, the industry can be challenging for performers’ mental health. The pressure to perform and meet the expectations of producers and viewers can take a toll on performers’ mental wellbeing. In this article, we’ll explore the challenges that the porn industry poses to mental health and strategies for coping with them.

The Challenges

  1. Stigma and Shame

The porn industry is still stigmatized, and performers can face a lot of shame and judgment from society. This can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, making it difficult for performers to seek help and support when needed.

  1. Pressure to Perform

Performers in the porn industry are expected to meet certain expectations and perform at their best every time. This pressure can be overwhelming and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

  1. Isolation and Loneliness

Performing in the porn industry can be a lonely experience, with performers spending long hours on set or on their own, away from friends and family. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which can take a toll on mental health.

  1. Trauma and Abuse

The porn industry is not immune to issues such as sexual harassment, assault, and exploitation. Performers may experience these traumatic events, leading to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression.

Strategies for Coping

Seek Professional Help

Performers in the porn industry should seek professional help and support when they need it. There are many therapists and counselors who specialize in working with performers in the industry and can help with issues such as anxiety, depression, and trauma.

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is crucial for performers in the porn industry. Taking breaks when needed, exercising, and practicing mindfulness and meditation can help performers manage stress and promote mental wellbeing.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Having a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues can make a big difference in performers’ mental health. Surrounding yourself with people who understand the challenges of the industry and offer non-judgmental support can help performers cope with the stresses of the job.

Address Trauma and Abuse

Performers who have experienced trauma and abuse in the industry should seek support and address these issues head-on. This may involve therapy, reporting incidents to the authorities, and taking legal action if necessary.


The porn industry poses significant challenges to performers’ mental health, from stigma and shame to pressure to perform and trauma and abuse. However, with the right strategies, performers can cope with these challenges and maintain good mental wellbeing. Seeking professional help, practicing self-care, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and addressing trauma and abuse are just a few strategies that can help performers in the porn industry maintain good mental health.

Navigating Consent and Boundaries in the Porn Industry: A Guide for Newcomers 0 165

Consent and boundaries are crucial aspects of the porn industry, and it’s essential for newcomers to understand how to navigate these issues. In this article, we’ll provide a guide for those who are new to the industry on how to approach consent and boundaries in a professional and respectful manner.

First and foremost, it’s important to understand that consent is always required in the porn industry. This means that every actor must give explicit and enthusiastic consent to any sexual act that is portrayed on camera. Consent can be given verbally or non-verbally, but it must always be clear and enthusiastic.

In order to ensure that consent is obtained, communication is key. Actors should have open and honest conversations with their scene partners and the director prior to filming. They should discuss what they are comfortable with and what their boundaries are, as well as any specific instructions or concerns.

It’s also important for actors to feel empowered to set their own boundaries and to speak up if they feel uncomfortable or unsafe during filming. This means that if an actor does not want to perform a particular act or if they feel that their boundaries are being pushed, they have the right to stop the scene and speak to the director about their concerns.

It’s also essential for actors to be aware of their own physical and emotional limits. This means that they should take breaks as needed, communicate with their scene partner and director about any discomfort or pain, and engage in self-care practices to ensure that they are physically and emotionally prepared for the demands of the job.

Finally, it’s important for actors to have a support system in place. This can include talking to other actors who have experience in the industry, seeking out counseling or therapy, and having trusted friends and family members who can provide emotional support.

Navigating consent and boundaries in the porn industry can be challenging, but it’s an essential part of maintaining a safe and respectful work environment. By following these guidelines, newcomers to the industry can ensure that they are approaching these issues in a professional and responsible manner.

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