Give kids sex education facts and teach them to be kind 0 38

WHEN my oldest daughter was about six, she asked me: “Mummy, do you know what being gay means?”

Having vowed to always tell my kids the age-appropriate truth when they asked a question, I launched into: “It’s when a man loves a man, or a woman loves . . . ”

Getty – ContributorTimes have changed, of course, but while it’s important that kids know there are alternatives to heterosexuality[/caption]

But she interrupted me with, “No, I know what it means. I just wanted to make sure that you did.”

Although there were same sex couples in our close social circle, I had never felt the need to label it, so presumably “being gay” was something she had learned in the school classroom or playground.

Fair enough. Back in the days before electricity, sex education at my primary school consisted of a Family Circle pamphlet about birds and bees, progressing to a book called Where Did I Come From? at secondary.

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It explained: “The man wants to get as close to the woman as he can get, because he’s feeling very loving towards her. And to get really close the best thing he can do is lie on top of her and put his penis inside her, into her vagina.”

Fear not, although it sounds like sexual assault, there was some preamble about the couple loving each other first, etc.

Amusingly, the book also pointed out that, while the “tickly feeling” is very nice, couples don’t do it all the time because it’s “very tiring.

More than playing football, or running, or skipping, or climbing trees, or almost anything”. Indeed. The rest of my sex education came from the problem page in Jackie magazine.

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Times have changed, of course, but while it’s important that kids know there are alternatives to heterosexuality, the teaching should be age-appropriate and factual, not agenda-driven.

And crucially, parents should know what their children are being taught, so they can have informed discussions at home.

So recent reports that certain schools are keeping parents in the dark while pushing contested gender theory as fact are deeply worrying.

Education Secretary Nadhim Zahawi seems to agree and, this week, insisted parents should know what sex education their children are being taught and reiterated a commitment for teaching guidelines on the issue.

Trouble is, a lot of schools outsource sex education to agencies with different outlooks (and, in some cases, agendas), leading to what one MP described as a “Wild West” scenario.

‘A plethora of deeply inappropriate material’

Worse, the agency staff don’t need qualifications in education or child development and there is no regulation of their curriculum.

Last week, MPs were told that some parents said their child showed no sign of questioning their gender until they attended the relationship and sex education (RSE) classes that were made compulsory in 2020.

Now, 79 per cent of secondary school teachers have pupils presenting as trans or non-binary. Tory MP Miriam Cates, a former biology teacher, said last week that the rise in children wanting to transition was “a social contagion, driven by the internet and reinforced in schools”.

She added that children are being exposed to “a plethora of deeply inappropriate, wildly inaccurate, sexually explicit and damaging materials in the name of sex education” and that gender ideology “has no basis in science”.

We have come a long way since that “tickly feeling” but the Government must ensure we do not go too far, too soon with impressionable young minds.

Meanwhile, schools should simply give pupils the facts, good and bad, while simultaneously teaching the vital skill of critical thinking, so they can make informed decisions about their sexuality in their own time.

But most of all, if you simply teach kids to be kind and respectful of other people’s beliefs and (within the law) choices, then the world will be a far happier place.

ReutersEducation Secretary Nadhim Zahawi insisted parents should know what sex education their children are being taught[/caption] Jon Bond -The SunIf you simply teach kids to be kind and respectful of other people’s choices, then the world will be a far happier place, writes Jane Moore[/caption]

Parish wife’s excuse is not cutting it

FORMER Tory MP Neil Parish, who quit after being caught watching porn in Parliament, has praised his wife Sue.

The ex-farmer – who claimed he stumbled on the porn after searching for a Dominator combine harvester – says: “She knows I’m no angel, she chases me around the kitchen with scissors saying ‘snipper snap’, knowing full well what part of my anatomy she is after. She knows what I’m like.”

Not known, clear with picture deskFormer Tory MP Neil Parish has praised his wife Sue after he quit for being caught watching porn in Parliament[/caption] The ex-farmer said ‘She knows I’m no angel’Facebook

He adds: “If you were mad with every man who looked at pornography, you would not have many wives in the world.”

True. But that’s not the point here, is it?

Mr Parish was forced to resign because he not only viewed pornography in his supposed place of work, but in a public forum where others (notably, two female colleagues) could see what he was up to and were made to feel deeply uncomfortable.

If he’d been viewing it in the comfort of his own home, he’d still be in a job.

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Quite right, too.

Everyone’s neighbours have a party from time to time, but they usually warn you in advance, apologise profusely for any noise and sometimes even invite you to join in the fun.

But imagine living next to a house where there are parties thrown pretty much every weekend by a succession of loud guests who have rented somewhere because they don’t want to upset their own neighbours?

No thanks.

HARPER SOUNDS FAB, VIC

VICTORIA BECKHAM says her ten-year-old daughter Harper has admonished her for the mini skirts she wore in the Spice Girls.

“She actually said to me recently . . .  your skirts were just unacceptable. They were just too short,” says Victoria, 48.

Darren FletcherAs Victoria Beckham said of Harper: ‘she’s ‘not one of these kids who are going out with a full face of make-up and a crop top’. Hallelujah[/caption]

“I said, ‘Are you ever going to wear skirts like that?’ She said, ‘Absolutely not’. We’ll see.”

Time will tell, but from the photos we’ve seen so far, Harper seems a very happy young lady who dresses wholly appropriately for her age.

As her mother points out, she’s “not one of these kids who are going out with a full face of make-up and a crop top”. Hallelujah.

It’s early days but could it be that Victoria has spawned an Ab Fab Saffy who’s admirably grounded, unaffected by the crushing whims of social media and who polices her every outfit and utterance? Let’s hope so. I have two of them and I couldn’t be prouder.

ANYONE FOR JAIL BREAK?

GARY BUTCHER booked a cab to take him from North Sea Camp near Boston to go to the nearest chip shop.

Nothing wrong with that, you might think . . . unless you’re from that part of Lincolnshire.

Lincolnshire PoliceOffender Gary Butcher booked a cab to take him from North Sea Camp near Boston to go to the nearest chip shop[/caption]

Because then you’d know that the “camp” isn’t a holiday resort. It’s supposedly a prison.

Yet Butcher, who was given a “life” sentence in 1995 for aggravated burglary and indecent assault, was able to nick someone’s bike and ride to where he ordered a taxi using an illegal phone.

After a three-day manhunt, he flagged down a police car, handed himself in, and has been given an extra six months.

Words fail me. Given the recent air travel chaos, perhaps we should all book North Sea Camp for two weeks in August.

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“THE Westminster bubble” is the term used to criticise politicians as being out of touch with what’s happening in the lives of the electorate.

And PM Boris Johnson appears to be occupying his own bubble within that bubble. Making him doubly out of touch with the outside world.

‘OLDIES’ NOT ALL PIQUETS

LEWIS HAMILTON said “older voices” should be silenced after 69-year-old former racing driver Nelson Piquet used the N-word when talking about him.

He’s right. But only because I assume he was talking about outdated opinions rather than all those from the older generations.

GettyLewis Hamilton said ‘older voices’ should be silenced after Nelson Piquet used the N-word when talking about him[/caption]

Many of whom, unlike Piquet, have evolved and know that such deeply offensive remarks have no place in the modern world.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 30

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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