What is the 69 sex position and how does it work? 0 45

IF you’re looking for a quick way for you and your partner to both enjoy some oral sex, then the 69 is the perfect position.

Named for its similarity in appearance to the number 69, each person is curved against each other, face to genitals.

Try the 69 with your partner if you’re on a tight schedule

Yes, this is also the reason people laugh and say “nice” if the number ever comes up in other situations – which might be rather annoying once you reach that age, or for those born in 1969.

What is the 69 position?

The 69 is a position in which both partners will be giving and receiving, meaning it can be a great position if you have only a limited amount of time.

This position also has the benefit of being suited to all genders.

To get into this position one partner will lie down on their back, the other partner will then climb and turn around so they are straddling their partner’s head with their genitals above their face.

Both partners then lean forward and begin performing oral sex on one another.

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Are there any risks involved with the 69?

Presuming all participants are STD-free then there aren’t really too many risks associated with this position.

Although with your knees and legs being so close to your partner’s head just be careful you don’t kick or knee them.

Are there any variations on the 69?

Yes – if the classic 69 isn’t really doing it for you there are a few different variations of this position that you can try.

The lazy 69

Instead of lying with one partner on top and one below in the lazy 69 you’ll both be lying on your sides facing each other’s genitals. 

This version can actually be more comfortable than the classic 69 so if you’re not comfy in the first position you can easily switch to this.

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The teasing 69

You can take part in the teasing 69 while remaining in either the classic or lazy position.

For this, rather than both of you giving and receiving you each take it in turns, bridging each other just to the brink of orgasm before switching the giver and receiver.

Standing 69

Only for those who are very strong, the standing 69 is where one partner stands facing their partner, then picks them up and flips them over so they’re upside down.

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Threesome 69

The 69 but with an extra participant. All three will make a triangle formation and then proceed to the classic 69 positions. 

Person one performs oral on person two, who performs oral on person three, who performs oral on person one.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

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