How do I tell my boyfriend that I hate oral sex? 0 219

DEAR DEIDRE: I ABSOLUTELY hate to pleasure my boyfriend orally, but I love it when he does it to me.

I’m 23 and he is 26.

In the bedroom, it’s like we’re on totally different pages

Everything else about our relationship is great – we’ve got so much in common and we never argue.

But in the bedroom, it’s like we’re on totally different pages.

He loves it when I give him oral sex – apparently, it’s what turns him on the most.

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But I dread doing it. I hate it when I gag, and always feel sick afterwards.

A couple of times he has pleasured me with his mouth and then been disappointed when I don’t reciprocate.

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DEIDRE SAYS: No one should ever do anything sexually they don’t want to.

Away from the bedroom, explain to your boyfriend why you don’t like giving oral.

If you just say, “I don’t want to”, he may not understand.



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