Women are exposing a horrifying new sex trend that proves why many would rather be single 0 94

THE DATING world can be tough, and now women are exposing a horrifying new sex trend that proves why many would rather be single.

Sex and relationships expert Nadia Bokody highlighted the worrying issue in her latest column. 

Women are calling out men for their brutal messages, including some that fat-shameTik Tok Instagram/nadiabokodySex expert Nadia Bokody says women are boldly exposing abusive men by showing screenshots of their texting exchanges[/caption]

She wrote for News.com.au: “A study by Pew Research found 57 per cent of female dating app users have received unsolicited sexually explicit messages or photos, and a 2018 paper analysing dating platform messages confirms we’re disproportionably targeted by abuse and harassment perpetrated by straight men.

“This is highlighted in a new TikTok trend, where women boldly expose abusive men via screenshots of their texting exchanges.

“In a now viral clip, TikToker Cadigan Smith shares messages received from a man she previously dated, which rapidly go from warm and flattering to cold and abusive.

“The exchange begins with a text that reads ‘I really f***ing like you. Like wow, holy sh*t. You’re just the most beautiful girl,’ but a handful of messages in, the male texter’s tone takes a sharp turn.

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“‘I’m just not that attracted to your body and I feel like if this moves forward it would be fake.

“‘Like I don’t wanna lead you on and be talking to a girl I don’t really get turned on by’.. the message reads.”

Nadia said that many other women have jumped on board the trend and shared their own unsettling texts. 

One cruel message read: “To be honest you’re a little too overweight for me. You were crushing me.”

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Another said: “Tbh, you’re not hot enough for the attitude you have” and a third read: “F*** you a weird stupid b**ch!!!””

Nadia added: “The casual ease with which these messages are delivered – messages which reduce women to objects that exist exclusively as sexual currency to men – is a disturbing example of the inability many men have to fully humanise the women they feel entitled to access for sex. 

“And it’s not new.

“Instagram account Bye Felipe, which now has around half a million followers, was started by LA-based singleton Alexandra Tweten in 2014 as a vehicle for sharing screenshots of some of the abusive messages she’d received from men on dating apps. 

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“But it quickly exploded into an online phenomenon, attracting women from all over the world to share their own horrifying text exchanges with men, emphasising how ubiquitous the issue is.

“Platforms like TikTok and Instagram, which allow women to share these experiences at scale, are becoming part of a movement prompting increasing numbers of women to actively choose celibacy and singledom over potentially dehumanising interactions with men, and this is reflected in new research, which shows young people are having less sex than ever before.

“And the men who aren’t ready to confront this probably won’t like me for pointing it out, even when it benefits them to hear it. 

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“But I don’t need those men to get on board with this message. 

“Because like so many of the women who share these stories, I’m not here for men. 

“I’m here to remind women they’re worth more than what some guy who couldn’t even get them to orgasm made them believe.”

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 30

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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