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You’re never too old to get a Brit frisky – I’m having best sex ever at 74 but my hips means some positions are out 0 215

Stanley Myrick

BRITNEY Spears has told fans she is having “the best sex ever” – at the age of 40 and while pregnant with her third child.

The Baby One More Time hitmaker, who after being freed from her conservatorship is now having a child with 28-year-old fiancé Sam Asghari, said on social media: “Sex is great when you’re pregnant.”

Britney Spears has told fans she is having ‘the best sex ever’ Stella Ralfini, 74, reckons sex since her mid-sixties is the best it has ever been

While logic suggests our twenties is when we enjoy the best sex of our lives — often having fewer responsibilities and being more carefree — research suggests that sex does actually get better with age.

One study commissioned by the ­Natural Cycles contraception app found that women feel more sexually ­attractive and have better orgasms from the age of 36 onwards.

So what is the best age to enjoy sex?

I finally felt sexually liberated in my 60s

TODAY’S Fabulous Daily sex expert Stella Ralfini, 74, lives in Camden, North London, is in a relationship and reckons sex since her mid-sixties is the best it has ever been. She says:

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“I was hot in my younger years and my body was the best it would ever be but I rarely let go when having sex, as I was too busy holding in my stomach or playing the sex siren and faking orgasms.

She says: ‘ I am so sexually liberated’

It took me a long time to grow into myself, have courage to pleasure myself in front of a lover and be honest about what turned me on.

At this point in my life, I am so sexually liberated. I love everything about sex and lovemaking and couldn’t care less about flab and droopy bits. I do want to please my man but not at the expense of not getting my fair share of pleasure.

Due to hip operations, I am no longer able to enjoy a lot of my earlier sex positions but I have found replacements to suit us golden oldies.

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With my imagination intact, I am never short of ideas to encourage intimacy and eroticism — it’s not an apple a day that keeps the doctor away, it’s a daily orgasm.

50s — I worked out in my 40s what I want

WRITER Samantha Brick, 51, is married to Pascal, 61, a carpenter. They live in Monpazier, France. She says:

“Just like my namesake Samantha Jones did during the original run of Sex And The City, I’m happy to publicise I am having the best sex of my life in my fifties.

Writer Samantha Brick, 51, says she’s having the best sex of her life in her fifties

Sex in my single twenties was fraught — with lights on, lights off. In my thirties I was obsessed with my pre-period tummy bloat. Now, the wiser me has switched the focus away from prioritising his needs.

It was only in my forties I worked out that if I was having a good time, chances were my husband was too.

What makes great sex for me? Communication and lots of it. I make time to go to bed early. I have fairy lights wrapped around the beams, soft lighting and massage oil at the side of my bed. I love the right ambience to get me in the mood. It helps me talk frankly and honestly about what I like.

Nowadays I’ve got the confidence to explain all of this too. There are some great female-designed sex apps which give ideas on sex, positions and how to talk about the things that do and don’t turn me on.

In my fifties there are no longer just Ann Summers sex toys — the range of aids on the market is fabulous.

I’ve been happily married for 14 years and am more than happy to say what I like in the bedroom. I know orgasms are best if I am on top. Foreplay is crucial.

Yet I’m more than happy with a quickie in the morning at the weekend before life gets in the way.

Perhaps the biggest thing I’ve learnt is that really great sex isn’t just about penetration — and it definitely isn’t about agonising over whether he’s having a good time. I focus on my pleasure and the rest follows.

Nothing comes close to an affair in my 30s

JEZ Webb, 55, tells us the best sex he has ever had was with a woman he had an affair with in his early thirties. For the writer, from Portsmouth, who has been single for 18 months, no partner has since matched up to her in the bedroom. He says:

“I was 30 and had been in a relationship for a year and a half when an affair began with a woman I met through my job at the time as a sports coach.

Jez Webb, 55, tells us the best sex he has ever had was with a woman he had an affair with in his early thirties

She was in an unhappy marriage and although I wasn’t looking to start an affair, we clicked.

There was sexual chemistry between us from the start and six months later we had sex. The first time was when her husband was at work and she invited me over.

From then, we had sex whenever we could, usually at hers when her husband was out.

The sex was fantastic — we both knew what we wanted in the bedroom and I was at an age where I enjoyed pleasing a woman.

I was more experienced than in my early twenties and it wasn’t just the adrenalin that felt good — I was also falling for this woman.

Sex in my twenties had been more selfish and it was quantity over quality when I was young. With this woman, sex was more meaningful.

After six months I ended the relationship I was in — she didn’t find out about the affair — because I knew what I was doing was wrong.

The woman I was having the affair with ended things after two years and I was devastated. Her husband gave her stability — while we shared the excitement — and she didn’t want to give that up.

The longest relationship I’ve had since then is six months — but nobody matches up.

I end up comparing how I felt back in my thirties to how I feel now, which I know is holding me back from meeting someone who can make me happy.

I’m an optimist, and hope that I will eventually find a woman who makes me feel that same way.

My hedonistic 20s were filled with carefree sex

SINGLE Rachel Foster, 48, an administrator from Lancashire, enjoyed sex the most when she was in her twenties. She says:

“I was slim, young and carefree. I felt sexy in an unaware kind of way, in a time before social media.

Rachel Foster, 48, an administrator from Lancashire, enjoyed sex the most when she was in her twenties

I chose wild outfits, mixing sparkly disco tops with fraying denim and wearing bright-red lipstick. The Nineties were fun-loving times sexually.

I felt alive and sexy. Gone were the adolescent spots and puberty of my teens. I was petite and doe-eyed, and men fell at my feet.

There was a feeling of “you only live once” and so we made the most of hedonism. Women became stronger and more empowered, and started to call the shots.

I fell for a man who was more caring and sensitive than the traditional alpha male.

He taught me more than the missionary position. It was all about foreplay and erogenous zones. I didn’t even know what an orgasm was until I met him — then I had so many orgasms I lost count. To this day, I’m grateful to him, or I might never have had one.

Now, I worry about love handles, lines and wrinkles. Not to mention the emotional trauma of the menopause.

Even if men come on to you there’s an uneasy feeling in the back of your mind that you’re a tick on their bucket list — an older woman.

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I had a reckless fling in my forties which did remind me of my wonderful twenties, but on the whole I worry that once you get to your late thirties men fear you are looking for a marriage partner and that you are keeping one eye on your body clock.

Internet dating makes romance disposable as well — you can swipe “next” and move on to the next one. I just wish I could go back to the Nineties.”

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Porn and Mental Health: The Challenges and Strategies for Coping in the Industry 0 178

Alice Trout

Pornography is a billion-dollar industry that has gained widespread popularity across the globe. However, while it may be a source of entertainment for some, the industry can be challenging for performers’ mental health. The pressure to perform and meet the expectations of producers and viewers can take a toll on performers’ mental wellbeing. In this article, we’ll explore the challenges that the porn industry poses to mental health and strategies for coping with them.

The Challenges

  1. Stigma and Shame

The porn industry is still stigmatized, and performers can face a lot of shame and judgment from society. This can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, making it difficult for performers to seek help and support when needed.

  1. Pressure to Perform

Performers in the porn industry are expected to meet certain expectations and perform at their best every time. This pressure can be overwhelming and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

  1. Isolation and Loneliness

Performing in the porn industry can be a lonely experience, with performers spending long hours on set or on their own, away from friends and family. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which can take a toll on mental health.

  1. Trauma and Abuse

The porn industry is not immune to issues such as sexual harassment, assault, and exploitation. Performers may experience these traumatic events, leading to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression.

Strategies for Coping

Seek Professional Help

Performers in the porn industry should seek professional help and support when they need it. There are many therapists and counselors who specialize in working with performers in the industry and can help with issues such as anxiety, depression, and trauma.

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is crucial for performers in the porn industry. Taking breaks when needed, exercising, and practicing mindfulness and meditation can help performers manage stress and promote mental wellbeing.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Having a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues can make a big difference in performers’ mental health. Surrounding yourself with people who understand the challenges of the industry and offer non-judgmental support can help performers cope with the stresses of the job.

Address Trauma and Abuse

Performers who have experienced trauma and abuse in the industry should seek support and address these issues head-on. This may involve therapy, reporting incidents to the authorities, and taking legal action if necessary.

Conclusion

The porn industry poses significant challenges to performers’ mental health, from stigma and shame to pressure to perform and trauma and abuse. However, with the right strategies, performers can cope with these challenges and maintain good mental wellbeing. Seeking professional help, practicing self-care, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and addressing trauma and abuse are just a few strategies that can help performers in the porn industry maintain good mental health.

Navigating Consent and Boundaries in the Porn Industry: A Guide for Newcomers 0 165

Alice Trout

Consent and boundaries are crucial aspects of the porn industry, and it’s essential for newcomers to understand how to navigate these issues. In this article, we’ll provide a guide for those who are new to the industry on how to approach consent and boundaries in a professional and respectful manner.

First and foremost, it’s important to understand that consent is always required in the porn industry. This means that every actor must give explicit and enthusiastic consent to any sexual act that is portrayed on camera. Consent can be given verbally or non-verbally, but it must always be clear and enthusiastic.

In order to ensure that consent is obtained, communication is key. Actors should have open and honest conversations with their scene partners and the director prior to filming. They should discuss what they are comfortable with and what their boundaries are, as well as any specific instructions or concerns.

It’s also important for actors to feel empowered to set their own boundaries and to speak up if they feel uncomfortable or unsafe during filming. This means that if an actor does not want to perform a particular act or if they feel that their boundaries are being pushed, they have the right to stop the scene and speak to the director about their concerns.

It’s also essential for actors to be aware of their own physical and emotional limits. This means that they should take breaks as needed, communicate with their scene partner and director about any discomfort or pain, and engage in self-care practices to ensure that they are physically and emotionally prepared for the demands of the job.

Finally, it’s important for actors to have a support system in place. This can include talking to other actors who have experience in the industry, seeking out counseling or therapy, and having trusted friends and family members who can provide emotional support.

Navigating consent and boundaries in the porn industry can be challenging, but it’s an essential part of maintaining a safe and respectful work environment. By following these guidelines, newcomers to the industry can ensure that they are approaching these issues in a professional and responsible manner.

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