You’re never too old to get a Brit frisky – I’m having best sex ever at 74 but my hips means some positions are out 0 95

BRITNEY Spears has told fans she is having “the best sex ever” – at the age of 40 and while pregnant with her third child.

The Baby One More Time hitmaker, who after being freed from her conservatorship is now having a child with 28-year-old fiancé Sam Asghari, said on social media: “Sex is great when you’re pregnant.”

Britney Spears has told fans she is having ‘the best sex ever’ Stella Ralfini, 74, reckons sex since her mid-sixties is the best it has ever been

While logic suggests our twenties is when we enjoy the best sex of our lives — often having fewer responsibilities and being more carefree — research suggests that sex does actually get better with age.

One study commissioned by the ­Natural Cycles contraception app found that women feel more sexually ­attractive and have better orgasms from the age of 36 onwards.

So what is the best age to enjoy sex?

I finally felt sexually liberated in my 60s

TODAY’S Fabulous Daily sex expert Stella Ralfini, 74, lives in Camden, North London, is in a relationship and reckons sex since her mid-sixties is the best it has ever been. She says:

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“I was hot in my younger years and my body was the best it would ever be but I rarely let go when having sex, as I was too busy holding in my stomach or playing the sex siren and faking orgasms.

She says: ‘ I am so sexually liberated’

It took me a long time to grow into myself, have courage to pleasure myself in front of a lover and be honest about what turned me on.

At this point in my life, I am so sexually liberated. I love everything about sex and lovemaking and couldn’t care less about flab and droopy bits. I do want to please my man but not at the expense of not getting my fair share of pleasure.

Due to hip operations, I am no longer able to enjoy a lot of my earlier sex positions but I have found replacements to suit us golden oldies.

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With my imagination intact, I am never short of ideas to encourage intimacy and eroticism — it’s not an apple a day that keeps the doctor away, it’s a daily orgasm.

50s — I worked out in my 40s what I want

WRITER Samantha Brick, 51, is married to Pascal, 61, a carpenter. They live in Monpazier, France. She says:

“Just like my namesake Samantha Jones did during the original run of Sex And The City, I’m happy to publicise I am having the best sex of my life in my fifties.

Writer Samantha Brick, 51, says she’s having the best sex of her life in her fifties

Sex in my single twenties was fraught — with lights on, lights off. In my thirties I was obsessed with my pre-period tummy bloat. Now, the wiser me has switched the focus away from prioritising his needs.

It was only in my forties I worked out that if I was having a good time, chances were my husband was too.

What makes great sex for me? Communication and lots of it. I make time to go to bed early. I have fairy lights wrapped around the beams, soft lighting and massage oil at the side of my bed. I love the right ambience to get me in the mood. It helps me talk frankly and honestly about what I like.

Nowadays I’ve got the confidence to explain all of this too. There are some great female-designed sex apps which give ideas on sex, positions and how to talk about the things that do and don’t turn me on.

In my fifties there are no longer just Ann Summers sex toys — the range of aids on the market is fabulous.

I’ve been happily married for 14 years and am more than happy to say what I like in the bedroom. I know orgasms are best if I am on top. Foreplay is crucial.

Yet I’m more than happy with a quickie in the morning at the weekend before life gets in the way.

Perhaps the biggest thing I’ve learnt is that really great sex isn’t just about penetration — and it definitely isn’t about agonising over whether he’s having a good time. I focus on my pleasure and the rest follows.

Nothing comes close to an affair in my 30s

JEZ Webb, 55, tells us the best sex he has ever had was with a woman he had an affair with in his early thirties. For the writer, from Portsmouth, who has been single for 18 months, no partner has since matched up to her in the bedroom. He says:

“I was 30 and had been in a relationship for a year and a half when an affair began with a woman I met through my job at the time as a sports coach.

Jez Webb, 55, tells us the best sex he has ever had was with a woman he had an affair with in his early thirties

She was in an unhappy marriage and although I wasn’t looking to start an affair, we clicked.

There was sexual chemistry between us from the start and six months later we had sex. The first time was when her husband was at work and she invited me over.

From then, we had sex whenever we could, usually at hers when her husband was out.

The sex was fantastic — we both knew what we wanted in the bedroom and I was at an age where I enjoyed pleasing a woman.

I was more experienced than in my early twenties and it wasn’t just the adrenalin that felt good — I was also falling for this woman.

Sex in my twenties had been more selfish and it was quantity over quality when I was young. With this woman, sex was more meaningful.

After six months I ended the relationship I was in — she didn’t find out about the affair — because I knew what I was doing was wrong.

The woman I was having the affair with ended things after two years and I was devastated. Her husband gave her stability — while we shared the excitement — and she didn’t want to give that up.

The longest relationship I’ve had since then is six months — but nobody matches up.

I end up comparing how I felt back in my thirties to how I feel now, which I know is holding me back from meeting someone who can make me happy.

I’m an optimist, and hope that I will eventually find a woman who makes me feel that same way.

My hedonistic 20s were filled with carefree sex

SINGLE Rachel Foster, 48, an administrator from Lancashire, enjoyed sex the most when she was in her twenties. She says:

“I was slim, young and carefree. I felt sexy in an unaware kind of way, in a time before social media.

Rachel Foster, 48, an administrator from Lancashire, enjoyed sex the most when she was in her twenties

I chose wild outfits, mixing sparkly disco tops with fraying denim and wearing bright-red lipstick. The Nineties were fun-loving times sexually.

I felt alive and sexy. Gone were the adolescent spots and puberty of my teens. I was petite and doe-eyed, and men fell at my feet.

There was a feeling of “you only live once” and so we made the most of hedonism. Women became stronger and more empowered, and started to call the shots.

I fell for a man who was more caring and sensitive than the traditional alpha male.

He taught me more than the missionary position. It was all about foreplay and erogenous zones. I didn’t even know what an orgasm was until I met him — then I had so many orgasms I lost count. To this day, I’m grateful to him, or I might never have had one.

Now, I worry about love handles, lines and wrinkles. Not to mention the emotional trauma of the menopause.

Even if men come on to you there’s an uneasy feeling in the back of your mind that you’re a tick on their bucket list — an older woman.

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I had a reckless fling in my forties which did remind me of my wonderful twenties, but on the whole I worry that once you get to your late thirties men fear you are looking for a marriage partner and that you are keeping one eye on your body clock.

Internet dating makes romance disposable as well — you can swipe “next” and move on to the next one. I just wish I could go back to the Nineties.”

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 28

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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