Sexpert reveals the weird sexual brag men make that’s ‘utterly terrifying’ 0 113

A SEX and relationship expert has revealed the sexual brag that men make about the bedroom that “utterly terrifying”.

In her column for News.com.au, Nadia Bokody said that she’s encountered men showing off that they don’t reciprocate in the bedroom.

nadiabokody/InstagramNadia Bokody claims that men are bragging about not caring about satisfying their partners in the bedroom[/caption]

She wrote: “One of the strangest displays of fragile masculinity I’ve witnessed to date though, is the idea being a #RealMan means sexually disappointing women, on purpose.

“I discovered this bizarre belief recently, via frequent protestations in the comment sections of TikToks I made joking about guys not being able to find the clitoris.

“At first, I thought the comments were satire, but as they continued to pile in, I realised they were in fact deadly serious.

“These men claim that, actually, they DEFINITELY DO KNOW EXACTLY WHERE THE CLITORIS IS, MMKAY? But, like, they just don’t care. 

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“Because ONLY SIMPS CARE ABOUT WOMEN’S ORGASMS, BRO! Reciprocally pleasurable sex? Ha! That’s for p***ies!”

She quoted one man as saying: “We all know the right spot and it’s not that we can’t find it, it’s we just don’t care”.

Nadia continued: “I’m sorry… WHAT?!!

“Are we actually at a point where caring about people other than yourself isn’t masculine?”

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The sex expert said that its “ironic” that while women are labelled as “dramatic” and “sensitive” for showing emotions, “we condition men to be so terrified of vulnerability, their own emotions end up bubbling over in arguably far more hyperbolic reactions.”

She continued: “Perhaps if we broadened the definition of what it means to ‘be a man’ and made room for a broad spectrum of emotions under the umbrella of masculinity, men could do as they’ve been instructing women to do throughout all of history, and: relax, learn to take a joke!

“And while you’re at it, guys, it wouldn’t hurt you to smile every once in a while.

“At the very least, please learn how to lose at a game of FIFA without putting a hole through the drywall.”

InstagramNadia said it is the strangest display of fragile masculinity she’s witnessed to date[/caption]

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 30

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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