Brits reveal their top 10 sex fantasies they simply have to do before they die – so which ones are on your bucket list? 0 106

DO you have a burning desire for something, or someone, in the bedroom?

You’re not alone.

Two thirds of couples have a secret list of saucy stuff they want to try, research shows

Two thirds of couples have a secret list of saucy stuff they want to try, research shows.

While women most want to recreate a movie or TV sex scene, guys want to get frisky with a celeb crush. Other top desires include a dirty weekend and sex with a stranger, according to affairs site illicitencounters.com.

From trying tantric to bonding over bondage, The Sun’s resident sexpert reveals how you can explore five of the top fantasies sensually — and safely.

TOP FIVE FOR WOMEN — RECREATE THEIR FAVE SCREEN SEX MOMENTS

MORE than half of us have acted out our favourite sex scene from a TV show, film or book.

If you like the passionate “kissing in the rain” scene between Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams in The Notebook then share a shower with your partner with your T-shirt and underwear on, and with the movie’s soundtrack ­playing in the background.

Or if Bridgerton leaves you hot under the collar, invest in a sexy corset to get into character.

TV beauty Danielle Lloyd, 38, bought several bodices to recreate ALL of the steamy scenes with her husband, electrician Michael O’Neill.

SEX ON A  PARADISE BEACH

You don’t need to jet off abroad to turn up the heat with your partner

YOU don’t need to jet off abroad to turn up the heat with your partner as forecasters claim we could see highs of 28C next month.

Do your research and find a secluded spot on a beach away from prying eyes and kids.

Don’t go at peak times, but instead choose a weekday when it’s more likely to be quiet.

Ramp up the romance by taking a picnic packed with foods that will get you in the mood.

Not only is it massively erotic to seductively feed strawberries dipped in chocolate to your partner, but the fruit is high in vitamin C, which improves blood flow and increases testosterone, upping your chances of orgasm.

MULTIPLE ORGASMS IN ONE SESSION

Four X-rated sex moves are scientifically proven to hit the spot

THERE are four X-rated sex moves scientifically proven to hit the spot.

Angling — no, not fishing — is a technique that involves the woman rotating, raising or lowering the pelvis during sex.

Rocking is where the girl is on top and grinds back and forth, while Shallowing is a move that controls the depth of penetration.

More than 75 per cent of women do not orgasm from penetrative sex alone so add a helping hand or a sex toy — a technique called Pairing.

Why not try all four together to achieve a four-gasm.

TRYING TANTRIC SEX

TANTRA is a great way to increase tension, intimacy and connect on a deeper level with your partner to enjoy better and longer orgasms.

A few times a week, ditch the PJs and practise ten minutes of tantra in bed with your other half before you go to sleep.

Slowly explore each other’s naked bodies with your hands and synchronise your breathing but RESIST having intercourse.

While it may be tough, this will help build desire and arousal in the long run.

BONDAGE SESSION WITH BLINDFOLDS AND HANDCUFFS

If you’re the one in control, cover your lover’s eyes with a sexy blindfold Handcuffs are the safest way to restrain your partner or be restrained

DECIDE who is going to be the “dom” and who will be the “sub”.

If you’re the one in control, cover your lover’s eyes with a sexy blindfold to start. Taking away their vision will send their other senses wild.

Until you learn the ropes, handcuffs are the safest way to restrain your partner or be restrained.

To begin, use comfy furry ones rather than metal ones so they don’t dig in.

Use the traffic light code to communicate what you like and dislike. Green for yes, amber for maybe and red for no.

Check out furry handcuffs, £9,99, lovehoney.co.uk.

TOP FIVE FOR MEN — SEX WITH THEIR FAVOURITE CELEBRITY

If Kim Kardashian turns you on, go shopping with your partner for a sexy latex bodysuit

YOU don’t need to get saucy with a star to achieve A-lister action between the sheets.

Buy your partner an outfit that best resembles your celebrity crush and experiment with some fun roleplay.

If Kim Kardashian turns you on, go shopping with your partner for a sexy latex bodysuit, loved by the reality TV star.

Check out The Captivating Cami Suspender, £35, annsummers.com.

A THREESOME

KINKY apps such as Feeld or 3Somer have made it easier than ever to have a three-way.

But if your partner isn’t up for inviting a stranger into your bed, there are clever ways you can fake a threesome by opening up your personal space.

Having sex in front of the window with the curtains open is a good way to get turned on by the thought of someone else watching.

You could also watch a naughty porn movie together or add a smart sex toy to your session, which works by itself without either one of you holding it.

Check out the We-Vibe X remote control vibrator, £99.99, lovehoney.co.uk.

SEX WITH A STUNNING STRANGER I SEE EVERY DAY

It’s normal to fantasise about other people

IT’S normal to fantasise about other people and it doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything wrong in your ­relationship.

More than 80 per cent of women and 98 per cent of men admit   thinking about someone else in bed other than their partner, so don’t beat yourself up if you are having these fantasies.

Instead initiate “just-met” roleplay with your partner and pretend to be strangers meeting for the first time at a bar.

After a few drinks, imagine you’re “booking into a cheap hotel” for a wild night of passion to make it feel more like a naughty one-night stand.

SEX AGAIN WITH MY FIRST LOVE

Bring memories of your early love to life by re­creating your first date

IT’S easy to reminisce over our young­er, carefree days but don’t forget sex with an ex is unlikely to ever be as good as you remember.

Concentrate on your current partner and think back to the early, heady days when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other.

Bring those memories to life by re­creating your first date.

Studies show women who are romanced are more likely to feel in the mood.

Take her to the first restaurant you visited togeth­er and surprise her with a memory book of your favourite pictures to revive those lusty feelings.

DIRTY WEEKEND

Pack off the kids for a dirty weekend at home

WOMEN are more likely to feel sexy and turned on when their surroundings are tranquil and uncluttered, research shows.

So pack the kids off to their grandparents and whisk your partner off for a dirty weekend . . . at home.

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Tidy up the house and roll out the red carpet for her. To start, treat her to a home-cooked meal with a bottle of bubbly and book her in for a “spa” treatment at home.

Run a romantic, bubblebath then spoil her with a sensual rub using a massage candle to turn her on. Try the Oh! Vanilla massage candle, £6.99, lovehoney.co.uk.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

Get in touch with Deidre

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Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 28

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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