I made my teenage sons a ‘sex starter kit’ – critics have slammed me but here’s why it’s better than learning from porn 0 80

A MOM has decided to give the birds and the bees talk a major update by creating a collection of sex tips for her sons.

Chloe Macintosh said she created the First Time Sex Starter Kit for her two sons to properly prepare them – and teens everywhere – for when they lose their virginities.

Getty – ContributorChloe Macintosh created a guide for people having sex for the first time to help her sons, and others, navigate losing their virginities[/caption] InstagramThe mom-of-two was inspired by her sons Felix, 16 and Elliott, 14, for the section on first-time sex[/caption]

She launched the sexual wellness app, Kama, to educate people of all ages on different aspects of sex.

There is a section for first-timers, which the mother of two was inspired to create with and for her sons – Felix, 16 and Elliott, 14.

“The content we wanted to put out there is more than some tips to put a condom on,” Macintosh told HuffPost.

“It’s more relating to the experience and making it as relaxed and comfortable as possible.”

There are currently 20 different videos in which Felix talks to a sex therapist, discussing topics such as “dry humping” and “how to put your penis inside.”

Macintosh never spoke about sex with her own parents and wants to remove the stigma about the subject for her sons.

“After an initial period of resistance, Felix and Elliott started to become more used to the topic, and speaking about it became more and more normal,” she said.

According to Macintosh, it would be impossible for her sons to ignore sex due to the number of books, “toys” and “gadgets” scattered all over their home.

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Eventually, her sons started asking questions about sex and soon their friends had their own questions as well. The teens wanted to know about imitating sex, choosing partners, and asking for feedback from them.

The honest questions and discussion helped Macintosh create the First Time Sex Starter Kit. She wanted the guide to have language that teens use in conversation to make it accessible and relatable.

The guide has advice on oral sex, vaginal and anal penetration, consent and more, according to HuffPost.

Macintosh said that a lot of sex education taught in schools is in language that teens can’t relate to. She also called it “heteronormative, binary and generally backwards and incomplete.”

She told HuffPost that she is worried about teens learning about sex from porn, which can create an unrealistic and skewed image of intimacy.

“The fact that so many teens and young people go through the processes of dating and intimacy without proper guidance is not good enough and can be easily repaired,” Macintosh said.

“If we remove the taboo and shame from talking about sex, then authentic pleasure can come more naturally.”

Despite the good intentions, some people online weren’t so quick to agree with Macintosh’s unconventional ways.

“Children raised by women like this end up in jail or prison when they get older,” wrote one Facebook user.

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Over on Twitter, one user wrote: “This is disgusting.”

Despite the negative feedback, Macintosh said she hopes the guide will encourage teens to talk openly about sex and pleasure with their peers, parents, and siblings.

Instagram/kama.labThe guide is presented by Kama, an app created by Macintosh[/caption]

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

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