IS YOUR partner rejecting you for sex? There may be a very simple reason why.
A psychologist and certified sex therapist has revealed that people can feel “used” if the only time they are touched is for sex.
TikTok/@drkatebalestrieri/Dr Kate Balestrieri said you shouldn’t only show affection when you are initiating sex[/caption] Instagram/@drkatebalestrieri/Dr Kate said women are conditioned to seek out sex after emotional connection, and men are conditioned to seek out sex to get to emotional connection[/caption]
Dr Kate Balestrieri uploaded a video and said the issue was one of “the most common complaints” she hears from couples.
On her @drkatebalestrieri account, she explained: “If you only touch and kiss your partner when you want to initiate sex, it is likely your partner will begin to feel objectified and used, and reject you more often.”
Speaking to Buzzfeed, Dr Kate added: “Women are often conditioned to desire sex after emotional connection, and see cuddling, holding hands, kissing, etc. as expressions of emotional connection necessary for sexual desire.
“When their partners initiate touch, with the sole purpose of converting touch into sex, many women begin to feel objectified and used for sex.
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“Women are conditioned to seek out sex after emotional connection, and men are conditioned to seek out sex to get to emotional connection.”
She advised that couples talk about the importance of non-sexual touch to ensure both parties are happy.
Her video has racked up over 400,000 likes, with many people saying they related to her clip.
One said: “Well, this explains a lot.”
Another added: “Pure facts.”
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