From sexy wish lists to bedroom board games, how you can fall back in lust – like Kourtney Kardashian & her ‘sex fast’ 0 284

THEY are the celebrity couple who want you to know just how hot they are – snogging in public, draping limbs around each other, even licking one another’s feet.

So it may come as a surprise to learn that Kourtney Kardashian and fiance Travis Barker keep the magic alive by NOT having sex.

instagram/kourtneykardashKourtney Kardashian and fiance Travis Barker keep the magic alive by NOT having sex[/caption] Instagram/kourtneykardashKourtney recently revealed she and Travis had undertaken an Ayurvedic cleanse, which meant no sex or orgasms for 12 days[/caption]

Reality TV’s Kourtney, 42, recently revealed she and Blink-182 rocker Travis, 46, had undertaken an Ayurvedic cleanse, which meant no sex or orgasms for 12 days.

And she reckons the US pair’s sex fast worked so well she would recommend it to anyone who wants to reignite the spark.

She said: “Oh my God, it was crazy. It made everything better. Like, if you can’t have caffeine, when you have your first matcha, it’s so good.”

It’s certainly working, judging by her Instagram.

Her posts show the couple touching tongues on the red carpet, entwined in various states of undress and sucking each other’s fingers.

It seems celebs are just like us, unable to rely on lust lasting for ever, and that we could learn a thing or two from them about how they remedy this.

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Singer Justin Bieber, 28, often posts his appreciation for model wife Hailey Baldwin, 25, on social media – once commenting on one of her sexy Instagram pictures, “u turn me on”.

Love Islanders Molly-Mae Hague and Tommy Fury, both 22, love a flirt, with her recently posting: “Good Friday appreciation post of me and my best friend . . . Just obsessed with you.” Tommy replied: “I love you my baby.”

And whenever This Morning host Holly Willoughby buys a new pair of shoes, she road-tests them in the bedroom first, during sex with husband Dan Baldwin.

Holly, 41, said: “I love wearing new shoes during sex – and not just because it’s kinky. I do enjoy saucy games with my hubby, but I have found the best way to break in new shoes is to wear them during sex.

“It’s become a sort of rule whenever I get a new pair of shoes. I always wear them in the bedroom, during the sex act, before I take them outside.”

These famous couples are still very much in love and sexpert Annabelle Knight says there is no reason a long-term relationship should be lacking in that honeymoon magic.

Here’s Annabelle’s guide for how YOU can make like the stars and give your relationship that kiss of life.

Old holiday pics are a passport to pleasure

PORING over holiday snaps might not sound like the passport to pleasure but a trip down memory lane could remind you why you fell for each other in the first place.

Print out some photos of the two of you away together, in the early days, and set aside an evening to go through them together.

GettyPrint out some photos of the two of you away together in the early days and set aside an evening to go through them together[/caption]

Remembering different times of your relationship will help you to see how far you’ve come, as well as allowing you to identify the strengths you have as a couple.

Laughing at old memories will also release serotonin and oxytocin – feel-good hormones that will help you form a deep bond.

A recent survey revealed we have more adventurous sex when on holiday.

So why not recreate that vacation vibe with some tapas and sangria and see where the night takes you?

At least you won’t have to deal with sand in awkward places if you’re not on holiday for real.

Create a sexy wish list

Many couples forget how to communicate with each other.

Even if you’ve been with your partner forever, it doesn’t mean they should automatically know what you like between the sheets.

GettyMany couples forget how to communicate with each other[/caption]

As we grow our likes and desires change.

The best way to get what you want is to tell them, but if you struggle to find the words – after all we’re apparently a nation of prudes – I’ve got the perfect solution.

Get 14 pieces of paper, split them between you and your partner and write a sexy wish list.

It can range from the sweet and innocent, such as your partner nuzzling your neck, to the more erotic, like a kinky role play scenario.

Don’t show each other see what you‘ve written then fold the pieces of paper up and put them into separate jam jars.

Every night, open one each and fulfil each other’s wish until you’ve completed them all over the course of the week.

As Kourtney says doesn’t always have to be about the physical act of having sex that keeps the spark alive.

Write an erotic story together

WE all loved playing the game Consequences as kids so why not give it a bit of a naughty makeover?

Each of you starts with a blank piece of paper and writes down who, what, how, where, when and why.

GettyWe all loved playing the game Consequences as kids so why not give it a bit of a naughty makeover?[/caption]

Take it in turns swapping the paper as you write a few lines under each heading.

You can detail your fantasy sex scenario but it’s OK not to take it too seriously, and add a bit of humour.

Read the stories aloud to each other and it’s sure to provide you with a happy ending.

Recreate a sexy movie moment

Movies and TV can prove a great source of inspiration for romance.

Everyone remembers that iconic pottery wheel scene in the film Ghost with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore.

GettyThe iconic pottery wheel scene in the film Ghost with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore[/caption]

Playing with clay can be a real sensual experience so try booking into a class together.

Or how about a dance class – just leave the Dirty Dancing lift to the experts – as all that close physical contact will provide plenty of foreplay for later and ensure you have the time of your life.

They don’t call it the Strictly curse for nothing.

Learning a new skill together will bring you closer together as a couple emotionally and physically.

Try a sex ban

KOURTNEY and Travis are the latest to try this but it also worked for Abbey Clancy and Peter Crouch.

The model imposed one while training for Strictly Come Dancing in 2013 – and said after winning the glitterball trophy: “Let’s just say Peter’s looking forward to having me back.”

GettyAbbey Clancy imposed a sex ban on Peter Crouch while she was training for Strictly Come Dancing in 2013[/caption]

Swearing off sex may seem odd if trying to bring back the spark, but the saying “good things come to those who wait” is true, and knowing you can’t have sex makes for heady anticipation then great release.

It works best if you give each other some space.

The pandemic has meant we’ve all spent a lot more time with loved ones, but this can be a turn-off.

Gwyneth Paltrow and husband Brad Falchuck even lived in separate houses for the entire first year of their marriage.

So get glammed up, head out with a pal and send your other half sexy selfies to build the sexual tension.

Pop a pill (no, not the blue one)

YOU don’t need to book a five-star sunshine getaway to the Maldives to enjoy time together, but a change of scenery can work wonders for your romance levels.

An added bonus is the positive anticipation that planning a little trip will build.

GettyVitamin D is known as the ‘sunshine’ vitamin and can be absorbed from the sun or by popping a pill during winter[/caption]

Looking forward to something together helps to increase intimacy and makes you feel closer as a couple.

Vitamin D is known as the “sunshine” vitamin and can be absorbed from the sun or by popping a pill during winter.

It’s vital for looking after not only our brains, bones and immune systems but our libido too.

So there’s no need for that little blue pill.

Beat boredom with a board game

THESE days we’re spoilt for choice when it comes to TV and many couples spend the evening slobbing on the sofa, binge-watching a box set until late into the night.

It’s no wonder there’s a lack of lust in your relationship.

GettyPlay your favourite board games to play together but with a naughty twist[/caption]

Make a rule that one night of the week you hide the remote control and dig out one of your favourite board games to play together – but with a naughty twist.

Whether you choose Snakes And Ladders, Cluedo or Trivial Pursuit, the same rule applies – every time one of you loses, you must remove an item of clothing.

You can also get “adult” board games aimed at improving sexual communication.

Try the six-second snog

AS teens we snog for hours, as we were too young for anything else, but when we age we often forget the joy of kissing and head straight to sex.

The “six-second kiss” is a simple and fun activity that American psychologist Dr John Gottman recommends couples incorporate into their everyday moments.

GettyThe ‘six-second kiss’ is a simple and fun activity that US psychologist Dr John Gottman urges couples to try it[/caption]

It’s a way to connect mentally and physically, and reduces stress hormone cortisol while hiking love hormone oxytocin.

It improves your kissing – and may lead to sex.

If looking for a chance for a six-second smooch, look no further than your kettle – once the water boils, it’s time for you to get hot too.

Have a quickie

WHILE some might say it’s quality and not quantity that matters, I might beg to differ.

Couples often blame tiredness for lacklustre libido – who’s going to want to spend hours perfecting their tantric sex moves when they can barely keep their eyes open?

GettyOpt for a quickie because it can be a great way to reignite passion if strapped for time[/caption]

Instead, opt for a quickie because it can be a great way to reignite passion if strapped for time.

Pick a time when you have energy, like first thing in the morning before the kids wake.

Remember, the aim of the game is mutual pleasure and satisfaction, and so communication during your quickie is key.

Look into each other’s eyes

NOW, stay with me on this one because some people find it awkward to start with.

This is all about reconnecting on a mental and emotional level with your partner.

ShutterstockLook into your partner’s eyes and have them look into yours[/caption]

All you need to do is look into their eyes and have them look into yours.

Couples who do this for at least ten minutes a week found that their stress levels eased.

They also noticed they felt a higher level of compassion toward their partner, and enjoyed greater intimacy and more satisfied sex.

So, suddenly, looking into your partner’s eyes doesn’t seem silly.

InstagramWhenever Holly Willoughby buys a new pair of shoes she road-tests them in the bedroom first during sex with husband Dan Baldwin[/caption] instagramLove Islanders Molly-Mae Hague and Tommy Fury both love a flirt[/caption] Instagram / Hailey BaldwinJustin Bieber often posts his appreciation for model wife Hailey Baldwin on social media[/caption]

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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