A SEXPERT has revealed the bedroom act all women hate and says men need to listen up.
Nadia Bokody, 37, from Sydney, has been writing sex columns for a decade but says barely anything’s changed – with silence and faked orgasms still common among women.
Instagram/nadiabokodyNadia Bokody says women are still afraid to speak up in the bedroom – even when things are painful[/caption] Instagram/nadiabokodyNon-consensual slapping and choking, normalised by porn, are a big part of the problem[/caption]
She tells news.com.au: “What’s startling, is the fact women seem to feel safer anonymously sharing basic sexual needs on the internet, than they do at home with their own partners.
“It’s even more unnerving women are participating in sex acts they not only don’t enjoy, but that include physical discomfort, distress or pain.”
So what are these sex acts? Among the top offenders, Nadia says, are guys replicating sex acts commonly seen in porn – like slapping, choking and spitting.
A 2019 survey by research group Savanta ComRes found more than a third of women have experienced unwanted slapping, choking, gagging or spitting during consensual sex.
Nadia adds: “To be clear, I don’t take issue with women participating in erotic asphyxiation. I’ve been known to consensually partake in it myself when the mood strikes.
“What troubles me about the dialogue women are having around sex today, is the lack of communication there appears to be when it comes to fundamental concerns like consent and comfort.
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“Though I regularly hear it from male readers, it’s crude to suggest the solution to this issue lies in women simply speaking up in bed…
“We need to instead ask ourselves why women don’t feel safe enough to be doing that in the first place.”
Nadia adds society needs to be proactive about creating spaces where women can vocalise their feelings on pleasure, comfort and consent.
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