I’m a sexpert – six ways to introduce some Christmas film friskiness into your sex life this festive season 0 85

IT’S romcom season, when we lap up the shiny romances of hit flicks – and find our own relationships somewhat lacking in comparison.

But instead of using the likes of Love Actually and The Holiday to berate our own love lives, what if we use them as inspiration to reignite that festive flame?

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Yes you can dress up as Mrs Christmas while your other half dons a Santa Suit.

And you can get up close and personal in front of an open fire.

Here, sex expert Alix Fox gives some movie-inspired pointers.

Stockings aren’t just for the fireplace

AlamyWhip up yuletide yumminess, don stockings and suspenders or go naked from the waist down under your cooking apron – pictured Love Actually[/caption]

IT’S not just those ladies on Love Actually that can look sensational in a Santa-inspired outfit.

While whipping up yuletide yumminess, don stockings and suspenders or go naked from the waist down under your cooking apron.

Your partner may not spot anything different from the front, but will get a sensational surprise when you turn around.

If you have overindulged on the mince pies, this is a great trick to help you feel confident, because the apron covers the tum and you will still look hotter than a roasting oven.

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Have a holiday hot-tub – and take snaps

Add seasonal-scented smellies for perfect relaxation when taking a luxurious bubble bath – pictured Cameron Diaz in The Holiday

TAKING a luxurious bubble bath like Cameron Diaz’s character in The Holiday?

Add seasonal-scented smellies for perfect relaxation — and then snap saucy selfies for your lover.

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Candles will create a flattering glow against your wet, glistening skin.

Tactically placed bubbles or shaving foam “snow” can cover bits and bobs you don’t want to show.

The steam gives a ­softening Photoshop effect without fakery.

And wet hair plus messed-up make-up can look incredibly ­suggestive.

Forget pottery, make marzipan models

AlamyForget pottery like in Ghost – try marzipan which is an excellent model-making material and it is made from almonds which are an aphrodisiac[/caption]

OK so Ghost isn’t technically a Christmas film but it’s usually on over the festive period, and who can forget THAT pottery wheel scene?

Marzipan — that Christmas cake essential — is excellent model-making material, and it is made from almonds which are an aphrodisiac.

So save a little for you both to play with like Plasticine, and mould a mini sculpture for each other.

Put your creativity to the test by making a tiny figure of your partner in the nude or simply write a saucy message in edible letters.

It will sweeten your kisses and maybe even enhance your libido.

Roll around like Bridget and Daniel

Bridget Jones and ­Daniel Cleaver, played by Renee Zellweger and Hugh Grant, go back to his for the first time

BIG cozy blankets often get draped around our homes at Christmas, ready to snuggle under while we watch The Snowman for the 54th time.

Why not lay a blanket on the floor and get frisky next to the twinkling tree lights?

Remember that scene from ­Bridget Jones’s Dairy when Bridget and ­Daniel Cleaver, played by Renee Zellweger and Hugh Grant, go back to his for the first time?

There is something sexy about making love on the floor.

This is also the perfect time to crack out those massage oils you have been dying to play with.

Leave a nookie cookie for your own Bad Santa

�UniversalJake Gyllenhaal sports a Santa hat in Jarhead[/caption]

YOUR Christmas crush might be Billy Bob Thornton in Bad Santa or Jake Gyllenhaal putting on a Santa hat in Jarhead, but could your other half be just as appealing?

If your lover is getting home later than you, leave a plate of biscuits and a glass of milk, or port, out for them like you would for Santa on Christmas Eve.

Why not throw in a Santa hat for good measure?

Add a note inviting them to come to the bedroom where a VERY special present is waiting for them under the covers.

Be a Die-Hard texter

AlamyNavigating Christmas can feel like a Bruce Willis Die Hard film[/caption]

SOMETIMES, navigating Christmas can feel like a Bruce Willis Die Hard film.

Just like John McClane you want to get home to your loved one but things just keep getting in the way.

Deep in the chaos, it can be difficult to grab a moment together.

So while you’re commuting home for Christmas, dashing through the snow — or more likely the town centre — remember to send each other flirty texts.

It could be photos of places you spot that would be great to get daringly sexy in, or sharing your kinky festive wish lists with each other. Ho-ho-hot!!

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 41

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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