I’m a granny to six but love dressing up as sexy Mrs Claus for my hubby it keeps our sex life festive AND frisky 0 84

AS MAURICE Garbutt returns home from a long day at work as a construction driver, he appears to walk into an empty house.

“Hayley, where are you?” the 56-year-old calls out to his wife. “I’m in here,” the waitress and gran-of-six replies, sprawled across the bed in her sexy Santa lingerie.

Glen MinikinHayley says nothing gets her husband Maurice in the mood like festive red babydoll outfits[/caption] Glen MinikinHayley says: ‘My husband always tells me I’m gorgeous. Dressing up makes sex feel more raunchy’[/caption]

Hayley, 54, from Finley, North Yorks, says nothing gets her husband in the mood like festive red babydoll outfits – similar to Bill Nighy’s backing dancers for the Christmas is all Around song in Love Actually – and she doesn’t care if people think they’re too old to spice things up.

She tells Fabulous: “Last year, I surprised Maurice with a sexy red bow outfit on Christmas night, teasing ‘what do you think of your present, do you want to open it?’

“He said ‘flipping heck!’ He absolutely loved it and has really got into dressing up in the bedroom since. It spices up our sex life.

“Maurice says I’ve got a nice figure and I should show it off.

“As I get older, I feel sexier with nice underwear, like corsets and matching knickers, as they offer more support.

“My husband always tells me I’m gorgeous. Dressing up makes sex feel more raunchy.”

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Maurice and mum-of-three Hayley have sex four to five times a week.

She says: “There’s that saying ‘you’re only as old as you feel’. And I know there’s another saying ‘mutton dressed as lamb’ but I don’t give a monkey’s.

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“If somebody said that to me, I’d just laugh and say ‘why do you want to be an old frump?’

“My husband doesn’t want me to be frumpy and I don’t want to be frumpy, so if we’re happy then what’s the problem? I just think some people just aren’t as adventurous as they should be.

“I want to look nice and in my head, I feel younger than I am. I think if you feel younger, you look younger, act younger, and enjoy life better. 

“When I go out with my grandchildren, people think they’re my kids. I’ll say ‘oh no these are my grandkiddies’ but I’m proud to be a gran as I absolutely adore them.”

Hayley and Maurice first dated when she was 16 and had a daughter together when she was 18.

But their families didn’t approve so the couple split and lost touch, before reconnecting on Facebook in 2010.

By then they had another two children between them.

They soon rekindled their romance – despite having not seen each other for 25 years – and married in June 2014.

As you get older, your sex life changes. You become more adventurous and you’re more open with each other.

Hayley Garbutt

Their six grandkids vary in age from 15 years to 10 months.

Contrary to popular opinion, Hayley believes sex gets BETTER as you age.

She says: “As you get older, your sex life changes. You become more adventurous and you’re more open with each other.

“When we first met, in the 80s, we would just do it military. Now Maurice tells me what he wants and I tell him what I want, that’s how it should be in a relationship.

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“As a teen, I wore little skimpy dresses, because I wanted to look sexy so lads would notice me. Now I do it because I want my husband to compliment me, and he does.”

As well as playing dress up, Hayley likes to go for early morning runs to keep herself “looking good and feeling fresh”.

She says: “I keep myself fit, I do a lot of charity runs so I have a good figure.

“I feel younger than I am. When I go shopping with my twin, I pick things up and she says ‘Hayley, that’s far too young for you’. I can’t seem to find that balance between the clothes I should be wearing at 54 and the outfits I want to wear. 

You don’t have to be skinny to look good. It’s how you feel when you put that outfit on. It makes you act sexier, it’s exciting and gives you that buzz.

Hayley Garbutt

“In the bedroom, you can wear sexy underwear at any age. I don’t feel any less sexy than I did when I was younger. I look in the mirror and think ‘You look good’.

“You don’t have to be skinny to look good. It’s how you feel when you put that outfit on. It makes you act sexier, it’s exciting and gives you that buzz.

“When my husband puts his hand on my knee, I know he’s finding it sexy too. It’s about your husband making you feel good about yourself, that’s important.”

Hayley loves wearing her sexy festive outfits throughout December.

She says: “I love walking around the house dressed up.

“My husband makes me laugh because he’ll say ‘Hayley the blinds are open. The neighbours will see you’, but I say ‘they shouldn’t be looking’.

“I’ll be in one of my outfits doing the washing up, the laundry, then I’ll say ‘let’s do a bit of jiving’ and we’ll dance together. We’re comfortable in our own skin and with each other.

“Sometimes if my husband’s coming home later than me, I’ll get dressed up in a sexy outfit. He’ll say ‘Hayley where are you?’ and I’ll say ‘I’m here’ from the bedroom.

In the bedroom, you can wear sexy underwear at any age. I don’t feel any less sexy than I did when I was younger. I look in the mirror and think ‘You look good’.

Hayley Garbutt

“I don’t want to be one of those couples who are stuck in a rut, sat around in their onesies.

“I did that for a while but then I thought ‘Hayley, what are you doing?’ So now I blast the heating and embrace my inner Mrs Claus.

“It’s good to be comfortable but I don’t want my husband seeing me in a baggy T-shirt and a pair of jogging bottoms.

“I want him to look at me and think I look good. And most importantly, I want to feel good within myself.”

Glen MinikinHayley says: ‘I want to look nice and in my head, I feel younger than I am. I think if you feel younger, you look younger, act younger, and enjoy life better’[/caption] Glen MinikinHayley says: ‘As you get older, your sex life changes. You become more adventurous and you’re more open with each other’[/caption]

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

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He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

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This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

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