I’m a relationship expert – people think low sex drive is the biggest problem couples have but this is what it REALLY is 0 340

AS MUCH as we all hope for a happily ever after, couples are bound to encounter a rough patch or two throughout their time together.

Lack of intimacy is one of the biggest issues many married couples face, and as your healthy (and mindblowing) sex life begins to dwindle so does the connection you once had.

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“One couple might initiate their need for intimacy more than the other – it might be about holding hands in public, or making a suggestion for sex,” explains Lucy Beresford, psychotherapist and author of Happy Relationships.

“But if the bids for connection are repeatedly rebuffed, this can cause serious hurt.”

While a decrease of sexual desire is certainly a common issue, it’s not the biggest one, according to the experts – and we should actually be looking at the smaller things we do on a daily basis.

“There is lots of information around on what constitutes the most common problems people encounter in their relationships, with arguing, money, infidelity, growing apart, boredom and sex usually appearing in the top 10,” Jenny Porter and Anna Cantwell, Relationship Counsellors at Marriage Care told Fabulous.

“All of these though most likely have a common thread, and that is poor communication.”

Once a couple loses the ability to talk with one another, they will inevitably start to encounter issues elsewhere in their relationship, the experts warn, especially if this becomes a prolonged loss of connection. 

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Luckily, though, you can prevent these issues from arising to begin with by “prioritising time and space to talk”.

“This is something that for some has suffered through the pandemic,” Jenny and Anna explain.

“Although we have been spending more time with our partners, the reduced contact with friends, family and work colleagues, may leave us feeling we have less to talk about.

“More time in the home together may also be leading to more friction around household chores and child care.

“Also with children being around more, there can be less opportunity for time alone.

“If this disconnect is left to develop, couples can find themselves feeling alone and isolated from their partner and that is when issues can start to develop, or cracks that were already there may widen.”

Some couples believe that they communicate brilliantly but they still end up having rows about the same thing.

Lucy BeresfordHappy Relationships author

Lucy, who’s also a broadcaster and panellist, agrees saying most couples fail to communicate properly then fail to fix it.

She says: “Some couples believe that they communicate brilliantly but they still end up having rows about the same thing. They think they are talking about the problem they have today, but really they are re-hashing old hurts and unresolved conflicts”

In addition to this, the author says it’s common for married couples to develop “grooves” in their relationship.

These “grooves” make them feel confident and secure in their relationship but they can be the very thing that cause tension or friction.

“Often one person will be the one who always makes supper while the other is the one who always puts out the bins. But if one person ends up doing all the chores it can lead to resentment,” explains Lucy.

Meanwhile, “willful blindness” can be just as troublesome with Lucy adding:”Not seeing that the socks on the floor won’t make it into the laundry basket on their own, or that the item left on the stairs won’t make it to the top floor unaided, can really cause tension.”

In other relationship-related news, a sexpert revealed the biggest lies we’ve been told about sex – and no, not ALL contraception is reliable.

Plus a sexpert revealed the most common mistakes they ALWAYS see couples make in bed – so how many are YOU guilty of?

We recently revealed how often most people are having sex & how to make sure you’re hitting the mark.

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Porn and Mental Health: The Challenges and Strategies for Coping in the Industry 0 177

Pornography is a billion-dollar industry that has gained widespread popularity across the globe. However, while it may be a source of entertainment for some, the industry can be challenging for performers’ mental health. The pressure to perform and meet the expectations of producers and viewers can take a toll on performers’ mental wellbeing. In this article, we’ll explore the challenges that the porn industry poses to mental health and strategies for coping with them.

The Challenges

  1. Stigma and Shame

The porn industry is still stigmatized, and performers can face a lot of shame and judgment from society. This can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, making it difficult for performers to seek help and support when needed.

  1. Pressure to Perform

Performers in the porn industry are expected to meet certain expectations and perform at their best every time. This pressure can be overwhelming and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

  1. Isolation and Loneliness

Performing in the porn industry can be a lonely experience, with performers spending long hours on set or on their own, away from friends and family. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which can take a toll on mental health.

  1. Trauma and Abuse

The porn industry is not immune to issues such as sexual harassment, assault, and exploitation. Performers may experience these traumatic events, leading to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression.

Strategies for Coping

Seek Professional Help

Performers in the porn industry should seek professional help and support when they need it. There are many therapists and counselors who specialize in working with performers in the industry and can help with issues such as anxiety, depression, and trauma.

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is crucial for performers in the porn industry. Taking breaks when needed, exercising, and practicing mindfulness and meditation can help performers manage stress and promote mental wellbeing.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Having a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues can make a big difference in performers’ mental health. Surrounding yourself with people who understand the challenges of the industry and offer non-judgmental support can help performers cope with the stresses of the job.

Address Trauma and Abuse

Performers who have experienced trauma and abuse in the industry should seek support and address these issues head-on. This may involve therapy, reporting incidents to the authorities, and taking legal action if necessary.


The porn industry poses significant challenges to performers’ mental health, from stigma and shame to pressure to perform and trauma and abuse. However, with the right strategies, performers can cope with these challenges and maintain good mental wellbeing. Seeking professional help, practicing self-care, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and addressing trauma and abuse are just a few strategies that can help performers in the porn industry maintain good mental health.

Navigating Consent and Boundaries in the Porn Industry: A Guide for Newcomers 0 165

Consent and boundaries are crucial aspects of the porn industry, and it’s essential for newcomers to understand how to navigate these issues. In this article, we’ll provide a guide for those who are new to the industry on how to approach consent and boundaries in a professional and respectful manner.

First and foremost, it’s important to understand that consent is always required in the porn industry. This means that every actor must give explicit and enthusiastic consent to any sexual act that is portrayed on camera. Consent can be given verbally or non-verbally, but it must always be clear and enthusiastic.

In order to ensure that consent is obtained, communication is key. Actors should have open and honest conversations with their scene partners and the director prior to filming. They should discuss what they are comfortable with and what their boundaries are, as well as any specific instructions or concerns.

It’s also important for actors to feel empowered to set their own boundaries and to speak up if they feel uncomfortable or unsafe during filming. This means that if an actor does not want to perform a particular act or if they feel that their boundaries are being pushed, they have the right to stop the scene and speak to the director about their concerns.

It’s also essential for actors to be aware of their own physical and emotional limits. This means that they should take breaks as needed, communicate with their scene partner and director about any discomfort or pain, and engage in self-care practices to ensure that they are physically and emotionally prepared for the demands of the job.

Finally, it’s important for actors to have a support system in place. This can include talking to other actors who have experience in the industry, seeking out counseling or therapy, and having trusted friends and family members who can provide emotional support.

Navigating consent and boundaries in the porn industry can be challenging, but it’s an essential part of maintaining a safe and respectful work environment. By following these guidelines, newcomers to the industry can ensure that they are approaching these issues in a professional and responsible manner.

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