I’m a relationship expert – people think low sex drive is the biggest problem couples have but this is what it REALLY is 0 233

AS MUCH as we all hope for a happily ever after, couples are bound to encounter a rough patch or two throughout their time together.

Lack of intimacy is one of the biggest issues many married couples face, and as your healthy (and mindblowing) sex life begins to dwindle so does the connection you once had.

GettyThere are many reasons why couples fight but there’s one, in particular, most are guilty of[/caption]

“One couple might initiate their need for intimacy more than the other – it might be about holding hands in public, or making a suggestion for sex,” explains Lucy Beresford, psychotherapist and author of Happy Relationships.

“But if the bids for connection are repeatedly rebuffed, this can cause serious hurt.”

While a decrease of sexual desire is certainly a common issue, it’s not the biggest one, according to the experts – and we should actually be looking at the smaller things we do on a daily basis.

“There is lots of information around on what constitutes the most common problems people encounter in their relationships, with arguing, money, infidelity, growing apart, boredom and sex usually appearing in the top 10,” Jenny Porter and Anna Cantwell, Relationship Counsellors at Marriage Care told Fabulous.

“All of these though most likely have a common thread, and that is poor communication.”

Once a couple loses the ability to talk with one another, they will inevitably start to encounter issues elsewhere in their relationship, the experts warn, especially if this becomes a prolonged loss of connection. 

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Luckily, though, you can prevent these issues from arising to begin with by “prioritising time and space to talk”.

“This is something that for some has suffered through the pandemic,” Jenny and Anna explain.

“Although we have been spending more time with our partners, the reduced contact with friends, family and work colleagues, may leave us feeling we have less to talk about.

“More time in the home together may also be leading to more friction around household chores and child care.

“Also with children being around more, there can be less opportunity for time alone.

“If this disconnect is left to develop, couples can find themselves feeling alone and isolated from their partner and that is when issues can start to develop, or cracks that were already there may widen.”

Some couples believe that they communicate brilliantly but they still end up having rows about the same thing.

Lucy BeresfordHappy Relationships author

Lucy, who’s also a broadcaster and panellist, agrees saying most couples fail to communicate properly then fail to fix it.

She says: “Some couples believe that they communicate brilliantly but they still end up having rows about the same thing. They think they are talking about the problem they have today, but really they are re-hashing old hurts and unresolved conflicts”

In addition to this, the author says it’s common for married couples to develop “grooves” in their relationship.

These “grooves” make them feel confident and secure in their relationship but they can be the very thing that cause tension or friction.

“Often one person will be the one who always makes supper while the other is the one who always puts out the bins. But if one person ends up doing all the chores it can lead to resentment,” explains Lucy.

Meanwhile, “willful blindness” can be just as troublesome with Lucy adding:”Not seeing that the socks on the floor won’t make it into the laundry basket on their own, or that the item left on the stairs won’t make it to the top floor unaided, can really cause tension.”

In other relationship-related news, a sexpert revealed the biggest lies we’ve been told about sex – and no, not ALL contraception is reliable.

Plus a sexpert revealed the most common mistakes they ALWAYS see couples make in bed – so how many are YOU guilty of?

We recently revealed how often most people are having sex & how to make sure you’re hitting the mark.

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Lensa AI app could be used to create erotica or porn 0 45

In recent days, the Lensa app, a service that uses a neural network to create drawn portraits, has gone viral. To generate drawings, you have to upload 10 to 20 of your portrait photos to the app, from which the program will generate an avatar. But the app has proven easy to trick so that it creates soft porn.

Internet users say that if you upload topless photos to Lensa, the app disables the NSFW filter and generates nudes. 

In general, the idea of uploading your photos to a questionable app seems bad to many. The owners of the service assure that users’ photos are deleted after 24 hours, but it is impossible to check whether this is true. In addition, such services have repeatedly allowed leaks of users’ personal data.

The Lensa application is a SaaS product of Russian developers Prisma Labs. This is especially disturbing for the residents of Ukraine, where the application has also gone viral: Ukrainian journalists urge citizens not to give their personal data to Russians, because considering the work of Russian special services, no one can guarantee a sufficient level of security when using programs written by the enemy. To use Lensa, each user has to accept the rules – to agree to the training of the neural network in order for it to work more correctly. Photos go to Google Cloud Platform or Amazon Web Services cloud storage – and, according to the developers, are deleted from there in 24 hours after being processed in Lensa. 

Lensa’s creators assure that users remain anonymous. The app doesn’t specifically ask them for access to metadata such as geolocation. However, the metadata that identifies the user can be linked to the photo that the person uploads to the app. But the Lensa team promises that photos are cleared of metadata before they are saved to Lensa systems.For now, Lensa AI is available for private use, although it may well offer its services to corporations. To do so, they will need B2B SaaS marketing.

xQc shocked to see his girlfriend making out with an adult film actress on live TV 0 74

Beer pong might be a good idea, what could go wrong? On that basis , streamers xQc and Adin launched the live stream a few days ago without fear of what might happen . Both North American content creators have spent hours playing games with their partners.

The girls in question have a long history online, especially in the case of Sky Bri, Adin’s alleged partner. She is an adult film actress and has participated in various streamers before, always displaying an aggressive and overt sexuality.

After playing beer pong and drinking alcoholic beverages, NYYXXII somehow asked permission to kiss Sky Bri. – May I kiss her? Kayla asked Adina. After a look and another question to his partner, NYYXXII approached Sky Bri to eventually kiss her with an implied passion that undoubtedly influenced the young Canadian streamer.

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