My lying husband has been living a secret life with lover for 15 years – now she’s pregnant 0 136

DEAR DEIDRE: MY lying husband has been leading a double life for the past 15 years.

The truth came out last month when he announced he’d bought a flat and was moving out.

He told me the affair was over a decade ago but has been carrying on

An affair I thought had ended more than a decade ago has been going strong and now they’re setting up home ahead of the birth of their new baby.

I’m 44 and my husband’s 46.

I was devastated when I discovered he was cheating with a colleague just as I became pregnant with our second daughter 14 years ago.

Their affair had been going on for two years. He blamed it on struggling with our first baby and the pressure of providing for the family.

I couldn’t believe he’d made me pregnant while having sex with another woman.

I told him I couldn’t trust him but he begged to stay together, so we carried on.

I never fully forgave him though. We weren’t a couple, we were two parents living together.

And unbeknown to me, the affair began again.

His lover, now 38, has split up with her partner and she’s eight months pregnant with my husband’s child.

I have read many WhatsApp messages between them where he has painted an awful picture of me and made himself sound like a fantastic dad.

I can’t forgive all the deceit. I’ve told my daughters, now 17 and 15, about their dad.

I felt they needed to know why we didn’t get on, why their dad was so moody and why he was always on his phone.

Our daughters don’t have a good relationship with him.

My husband wants them to be part of his new family and his partner wants to meet me. I’m horrified at this.

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They’ve destroyed my life and they want me to accept their new family.

My girls don’t want to be part of it either. But should I encourage them to be part of their dad’s new family? Am I being unfair?

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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s no surprise you’re confused and conflicted.

It will take time to recover, particularly when you’re also trying to care for your daughters.

Lean on your friends and seek the support of a counsellor if need be. Local help is available via

Keeping a relationship with their dad and wider family is important for your daughters, so do encourage them to see him.

They need to have some continuity, despite their parents splitting up.

And don’t forget that your husband’s new baby will be their half-sibling.



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In recent days, the Lensa app, a service that uses a neural network to create drawn portraits, has gone viral. To generate drawings, you have to upload 10 to 20 of your portrait photos to the app, from which the program will generate an avatar. But the app has proven easy to trick so that it creates soft porn.

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In general, the idea of uploading your photos to a questionable app seems bad to many. The owners of the service assure that users’ photos are deleted after 24 hours, but it is impossible to check whether this is true. In addition, such services have repeatedly allowed leaks of users’ personal data.

The Lensa application is a SaaS product of Russian developers Prisma Labs. This is especially disturbing for the residents of Ukraine, where the application has also gone viral: Ukrainian journalists urge citizens not to give their personal data to Russians, because considering the work of Russian special services, no one can guarantee a sufficient level of security when using programs written by the enemy. To use Lensa, each user has to accept the rules – to agree to the training of the neural network in order for it to work more correctly. Photos go to Google Cloud Platform or Amazon Web Services cloud storage – and, according to the developers, are deleted from there in 24 hours after being processed in Lensa. 

Lensa’s creators assure that users remain anonymous. The app doesn’t specifically ask them for access to metadata such as geolocation. However, the metadata that identifies the user can be linked to the photo that the person uploads to the app. But the Lensa team promises that photos are cleared of metadata before they are saved to Lensa systems.For now, Lensa AI is available for private use, although it may well offer its services to corporations. To do so, they will need B2B SaaS marketing.

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