I got a vasectomy at 23 – I felt it was the only way to take control 0 95

FOR most people, getting a vasectomy is a procedure you take in later life.

It refers to male sterilisation and it cuts or seals tubes that carry a man’s sperm to permanently prevent pregnancy.

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Many men go for this option when they don’t want any more children – as it’s 99 per cent effective.

But with just one child, Keith Laue, 23, made the decision to have – what is sometimes known as ‘the snip’.

He and his partner Taylor Ribar said they felt disempowered by laws which were being bought in, in their home state in Texas, US.

In the summer of 2021, the state banned abortions as early as the first six weeks of pregnancy.

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The couple knew they didn’t want another child, and decided that a vasectomy would be the most cost effective option available to them.

In the UK, birth control for women, in the form of the pill or coil is free on the NHS.

Vasectomies are also available on the service, but in the US, healthcare is privatised.

He explained that this had been a roadblock for the couple, and highlighted that it shouldn’t just be his partner’s responsibility to take care of birth control.

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When the Supreme Court’s preliminary decision to reverse Roe v. Wade was revealed earlier this year, he knew he needed to act.

He told Health: “It felt like almost immediately afterward, maybe two or three weeks later, Roe was overturned. And I was even more glad I did it.

“I don’t have anymore anxiety now around having a healthy sex life, and that’s a really nice feeling.”

In Texas, he said the mentality is that if you ‘don’t want to get pregnant, you shouldn’t have sex’.

Now, Keith has been documenting his journey on TikTok in order to help other men who might be considering the procedure.

He added: “I’m really thankful for the traction my video has gotten. But I don’t think it’s fair that it took overturning a woman’s reproductive rights for this subject to get attention.”

At first he said he had been hesitant to share the video – but is now confident he made the right choice.

The full-time TikTok influencer said that vasectomies aren’t talked about very much when it comes to the conversation on contraceptives and birth control.

One of the things that surprised him most, he said, was the misconceptions around the procedure.

He said he still has testicles, can still ejaculate and doesn’t have low testosterone and that the decision left the couple feeling empowered.

What happens during a vasectomy procedure? How does it work?

Surprisingly, the life-changing operation can be carried out in just 15 minutes.

The procedure is typically carried out under local anaesthetic, so is often relatively painless.

There are two ways to carry out a vasectomy, using the conventional or the no-scalpel method.

The conventional vasectomy involves making two 1cm long incisions in the scrotum using a surgical knife.

This allows the surgeon to remove a small section from the tubes linking the testicles and the penis, which are then tied or sealed shut.

Medical professionals often use dissolvable stitches to close the incision.

The second method is no-scalpel vasectomy, which is typically carried out under local anaesthetic.

During the operation, surgeons puncture a small hole in the skin of the scrotum, which allows them to access the same tubes without using a scalpel.

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After the passage is closed, the puncture is closed in the same way as a conventional vasectomy.

Patients that have had the sterilisation surgery are often able to return to work one or two days after getting it done.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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