I caught my wife having sex with my business partner – I’ve lost everything 0 99

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I caught my wife having sex with my business partner, my world fell apart.

Now I can’t even speak to either of them, but my wife claims it was just a stupid mistake.

I was greeted by the worst sight imaginable — my wife straddling my business partner

I’m 38 and she is 39. My business partner, a friend I’ve known since I was a child, is 37.

A week ago, my life was perfect. I had a happy marriage, two lovely children and loved running my successful design business I’d built from nothing.

My wife did the book-keeping and helped with admin.

Sometimes, she’d be alone in the office with my business partner.

I trusted them both. He was like a brother to me, an uncle to my kids.

One afternoon last week, a client cancelled our off-site meeting at the last minute.

I decided to head back to the office as I had a few things to finish. I knew my wife and business partner would both be there.

When I walked back in, I heard strange noises, like moaning.

I was greeted by the worst sight imaginable — my wife straddling my business partner.

He was sitting in his office chair, with his pants around his ankles, and she had her skirt hitched up around her waist.

I was so shocked, I instantly ran to the bathroom to vomit.

When I came out, my wife was crying and my partner had left.

She said it was a moment of madness and that it will never happen again.

But since then, I haven’t been able to go home. I’m staying at my sister’s.

My wife and business partner keep calling but I’m not ready to talk.

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I don’t know how I can stay married, or work with either of them again. All the trust has gone and my life is in pieces.

How will I ever recover?

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DEIDRE SAYS: When the two people you most trust betray you, it is just devastating.

This situation is particularly tough, as it impacts on every aspect of your life – home and work.

My support pack, Cheating – Can You Get Over It? should be helpful to read.

Understandably, you’re not ready to talk to your wife or partner – but in time it would be helpful to understand what happened.

You need to decide if your marriage is worth salvaging.

Of course, as angry as you are with your wife, you need to think of your kids, as they will be confused and upset by your absence.

You may find it helpful to have some counselling as a couple or separately.



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You can find some support through tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960).

As for your business partner, if you feel you can’t work with him again, it may be possible to buy him out.

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Lensa AI app could be used to create erotica or porn 0 42

In recent days, the Lensa app, a service that uses a neural network to create drawn portraits, has gone viral. To generate drawings, you have to upload 10 to 20 of your portrait photos to the app, from which the program will generate an avatar. But the app has proven easy to trick so that it creates soft porn.

Internet users say that if you upload topless photos to Lensa, the app disables the NSFW filter and generates nudes. 

In general, the idea of uploading your photos to a questionable app seems bad to many. The owners of the service assure that users’ photos are deleted after 24 hours, but it is impossible to check whether this is true. In addition, such services have repeatedly allowed leaks of users’ personal data.

The Lensa application is a SaaS product of Russian developers Prisma Labs. This is especially disturbing for the residents of Ukraine, where the application has also gone viral: Ukrainian journalists urge citizens not to give their personal data to Russians, because considering the work of Russian special services, no one can guarantee a sufficient level of security when using programs written by the enemy. To use Lensa, each user has to accept the rules – to agree to the training of the neural network in order for it to work more correctly. Photos go to Google Cloud Platform or Amazon Web Services cloud storage – and, according to the developers, are deleted from there in 24 hours after being processed in Lensa. 

Lensa’s creators assure that users remain anonymous. The app doesn’t specifically ask them for access to metadata such as geolocation. However, the metadata that identifies the user can be linked to the photo that the person uploads to the app. But the Lensa team promises that photos are cleared of metadata before they are saved to Lensa systems.For now, Lensa AI is available for private use, although it may well offer its services to corporations. To do so, they will need B2B SaaS marketing.

xQc shocked to see his girlfriend making out with an adult film actress on live TV 0 69

Beer pong might be a good idea, what could go wrong? On that basis , streamers xQc and Adin launched the live stream a few days ago without fear of what might happen . Both North American content creators have spent hours playing games with their partners.

The girls in question have a long history online, especially in the case of Sky Bri, Adin’s alleged partner. She is an adult film actress and has participated in various streamers before, always displaying an aggressive and overt sexuality.

After playing beer pong and drinking alcoholic beverages, NYYXXII somehow asked permission to kiss Sky Bri. – May I kiss her? Kayla asked Adina. After a look and another question to his partner, NYYXXII approached Sky Bri to eventually kiss her with an implied passion that undoubtedly influenced the young Canadian streamer.

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