DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I talk to my husband about his erection problem?
I don’t want to kick him when he’s down.
I wonder whether he no longer finds me physically attractive
He’s 42 and I’m 39 but I’m upset by the lack of intimacy.
We so rarely have sex because he can’t get fully erect. I wish there was a simple solution.
He’s a hard-working taxi driver and I keep myself looking nice for him.
I’ve bought nice underwear and sex toys but he always has some excuse.
I wonder whether he no longer finds me physically attractive.
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Or is he just embarrassed?
I have a high sex drive and I’m feeling very rejected.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’d advise a chat with his GP to check for any underlying cause.
The chances are he’s fine and it’s classic performance anxiety. The worry over one failed erection can make this happen again.
It isn’t about how attractive you are, it is having belief in himself.
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Boost his confidence by telling him he’s sexy, focus on foreplay without the need to have intercourse and build back up to it.
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