AFTER a gruelling few years, our libidos are revving up ahead of a sex-filled future.
One in five of us are having more sex than we did before 2020, according to the 2022 Sex Census by Lelo.
ShutterstockAFTER a gruelling few years because of the pandemic, our libidos are revving up ahead of a sex-filled future[/caption] Stewart Williams – The SunIf you are struggling with a lean patch in your sex life, sexpert Kate Taylor has eight tips to follow, whether you are coupled-up or single[/caption]
The sexual wellness company polled 4,000 adults on their sexual habits over the past 18 months.
Participants were also asked what the future has in store — and the findings make for tantalising reading.
Almost half of us (44 per cent) have had less sex than before — or no sex at all in the past 18 months.
One in ten said they had not so much as kissed another person during that time.
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Instead of working from home, 14 per cent are eyeing up co-workers for hookups.
But in the not-so-distant future we may turn to virtual reality porn or even sex robots to get our kicks, the survey suggests.
Market-watchers at investment firm Piper Sandler reckon the VR porn industry will be worth £840million by as soon as 2025.
And one in five of us (22 per cent) would consider getting jiggy with a robot.
If you are struggling with a lean patch in your sex life, sexpert Kate Taylor has eight tips to follow, whether you are coupled-up or single.
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GettyToo anxious to feel frisky? Start with a topless massage[/caption]
Sex is a great cure for anxiety, lowering levels of the stress chemical cortisol, stabilising the blood pressure and releasing feel-good endorphins.
Too anxious to feel frisky? Start with a topless massage. Skin-on-skin contact releases oxytocin in the body, helping you feel calmer.
Use a sensual oil containing lavender such as Neal’s Yard aromatic massage oil (lookfantastic.com, £12.50).
GettyRole-play a sexy game in which you are not allowed to touch each other. Then touch yourselves while you both watch[/caption]
It is normal (and OK) to enjoy solo sex in a relationship . . . but it is more fun to DIY together.
Role-play a sexy game in which you are not allowed to touch each other. Then touch yourselves while you both watch.
Or bring a remote-controlled sex toy to bed so you can be the boss of each other’s bits. Try the Fusion Love Egg (£42, Ann Summers) for her.
For him, try We-Vibe’s Verge perineum stimulator (£89, we-vibe.com).
AlamyUse a dating site or app and get a platonic friend of the type you would like to attract to give your profile the once-over before you publish it[/caption]
Forget trawling for love on TikTok or flirting on Facebook. You will only look sleazy, not sexy.
Asking friends or family to hook you up is also fraught with pitfalls.
Use a dating site or app and get a platonic friend of the type you would like to attract to give your profile the once-over before you publish it.
Include words known to attract attention. According to a Match study, men send the most messages to women’s profiles that use the word “gaming”, while women write to profiles that mention “family”.
Getty – ContributorAim to have FUN rather than simply sex[/caption]
Worrying about your performance or comparing yourself to porn stars will turn sex into work rather than play. Lighten up to reignite your libido.
Tonight, aim to have FUN rather than simply sex. Put on an upbeat playlist, start a pillow fight and scrawl filthy messages on each other with body pens.
Do an over-the-top striptease or bonk along with your favourite movie sex scene.
GettyYou might not be ready for an electronic lover yet but you can still enjoy the latest gadgetry to get you there[/caption]
Prepare yourself for a robocop off, as the future of sex tech is VERY bright. You might not be ready for an electronic lover yet but you can still enjoy the latest gadgetry to get you there.
Try Lelo’s latest hi-tech SILA toy (£135, lelo.com), which uses sonic waves to stimulate her bits.
A VR headset like Meta Quest 2 (£299, Argos) immerses you and your partner in 3-D adult content from sites such as SexLikeReal and VR Bangers.
PEAK ONCE A WEEK
Draw up a list of sexy thrills you would love to experienceGetty – Contributor
A famous 2015 study found couples only need to have sex once a week to achieve the highest levels of happiness and satisfaction. That gives you 26 more bonks this year.
Together, draw up a list of 13 sexy thrills you would each love to experience.
Include fantasies, role-playing, positions, foreplay techniques, locations, everything. Take turns to bring one to life every week.
SWAP YOUR CLOCKS
GettyEarly-morning sex makes the most of men’s natural 7am boost of testosterone.[/caption]
Seventeen per cent of people surveyed said looking after children stopped them having sex.
Parenting little ones can leave couples feeling zonked by bedtime — and teenage offspring can wreck your love life too by keeping odd hours or needing midnight lifts home.
Before the school summer holidays start, try switching to BST (British Sex Timetable) and make love before the kids wake up.
Early-morning sex makes the most of men’s natural 7am boost of testosterone.
GettyAny time you have a negative thought about how your body looks, immediately think a positive thought about how your body feels[/caption]
Do not body-shame yourself into celibacy. Research has found people with body-confidence issues initiate sex less often and find sex less enjoyable than those who accept themselves.
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Try a mindful-sex exercise. Any time you have a negative thought about how your body looks, immediately think a positive thought about how your body feels.
For example, if you think, “My thighs look huge,” follow it with, “I love how it feels when my partner kisses them.” Do it every time and you will become less self-critical.