I caught my wife having sex with our neighbour – she’s cheated with nine blokes 0 105

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I came home from work early one day I was horrified to find my wife performing a sex act on our neighbour.

To add insult to injury, she was giving him oral, and she has never done that for me in the ten years we’ve been married — she told me she found the idea disgusting.

I found my wife cheating with another man

It turns out he’s just one of her many lovers.

I guess I didn’t get the memo saying we were in an open marriage.

I am 40 and she is 38. I have been faithful to her since the day we met.

Perhaps I’m naive, but I never suspected she was cheating on me.

I thought she didn’t like sex much.

She has always wanted to do it with the lights off, and she would never try anything new. I put up with it because I loved her so much.

Now I know she just didn’t like sex with me.

I only found out about her infidelity because I got a migraine at work last week.

I felt so bad I had to leave the office early to come home to rest. My wife wasn’t working that day and I was hoping for tea and sympathy.

Instead, I found her head buried in a man’s naked lap, while he lay back on my sofa.

For a second I thought I was going to throw up. Then I shouted at him to leave, threw his trousers at him, and he ran out of my house.

My wife said she was sorry I’d seen that, but I was overreacting because it meant nothing.

When I pressed her, she admitted having had at least nine lovers since we were married.

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I don’t know who she is any more.

I’ve never felt so much pain. She thinks I should forgive and forget, but I don’t see a way forward in my marriage.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You have had a horrible shock, not just seeing your wife have sex with another man, but also learning that she has cheated throughout your marriage.

Right now, totally understandably, you want to walk away from your marriage.

But it sounds like until this incident, you were generally happy with your wife.

Once the shock wears off, it’s possible you will want to attempt to put this behind you and try again.

My support pack Cheating, Can You Get Over It? may then be of use.

If you are to have a future, your wife will need to talk to you about your sex life honestly, so you can understand what went wrong and get to the root cause of her multiple liaisons.

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In recent days, the Lensa app, a service that uses a neural network to create drawn portraits, has gone viral. To generate drawings, you have to upload 10 to 20 of your portrait photos to the app, from which the program will generate an avatar. But the app has proven easy to trick so that it creates soft porn.

Internet users say that if you upload topless photos to Lensa, the app disables the NSFW filter and generates nudes. 

In general, the idea of uploading your photos to a questionable app seems bad to many. The owners of the service assure that users’ photos are deleted after 24 hours, but it is impossible to check whether this is true. In addition, such services have repeatedly allowed leaks of users’ personal data.

The Lensa application is a SaaS product of Russian developers Prisma Labs. This is especially disturbing for the residents of Ukraine, where the application has also gone viral: Ukrainian journalists urge citizens not to give their personal data to Russians, because considering the work of Russian special services, no one can guarantee a sufficient level of security when using programs written by the enemy. To use Lensa, each user has to accept the rules – to agree to the training of the neural network in order for it to work more correctly. Photos go to Google Cloud Platform or Amazon Web Services cloud storage – and, according to the developers, are deleted from there in 24 hours after being processed in Lensa. 

Lensa’s creators assure that users remain anonymous. The app doesn’t specifically ask them for access to metadata such as geolocation. However, the metadata that identifies the user can be linked to the photo that the person uploads to the app. But the Lensa team promises that photos are cleared of metadata before they are saved to Lensa systems.For now, Lensa AI is available for private use, although it may well offer its services to corporations. To do so, they will need B2B SaaS marketing.

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