My designer vagina made sex feel so much better I’m thinking of getting another one, says mum-of-five Danielle Lloyd 0 47

WITH five young children and a business to run, finding time in the schedule for sex isn’t always easy for Danielle Lloyd.

Indeed, the model and reality star laughs as she confides that she and husband Michael O’Neill have to employ a strategy of “whenever and wherever”.

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If opportunity knocks, they go for it. 

She says: “You have to grab whatever chance you can! In a long-term relationship, sex helps keep that spark alive and stops things from going stale. And you always feel better for having done it, don’t you?”

Danielle, 38, welcomed longed-for daughter Autumn to their busy family last November – a sister for Archie, 11, Harry, 10, and George, eight, from her previous marriage, and four-year-old Ronnie with husband Michael, 36, an electrician.

She added: “Sex makes me happy and it’s purely for fun now. I can assure you it’s definitely not to get pregnant again!”

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As well as looking after their busy household, Danielle is an ambassador for weight-loss brand Exante and runs her own account on adult subscription site OnlyFans, posting sexy paid-for content, which she has said “pays the mortgage”.

And she was on her usual candid form as we got down to, er, business for a revealing chat about how, after seven years together, her relationship with Michael is spicier than ever…

How important do you think sex is in a relationship?

It’s really important. When you’ve got busy lives, sex is one of the best ways you can connect with each other, show you’re still in love and that you still have passion in your relationship.

Obviously there will be times where you don’t feel like it, and when you’ve got kids it can be difficult to make time for each other.

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I’ve got five, so I know that more than most! 

How often do you have sex?

It varies depending on how I’m feeling, how Michael’s feeling and the everyday stresses of normal life.

I certainly couldn’t do it every day – who has the time or the energy for that? But I do think it’s healthy to have sex every week.

Don’t get me wrong, we’ve gone without it for longer periods than that – sometimes I really can’t be bothered and other times Michael can’t.

But it’s important to make the effort to have that time together, otherwise a relationship can slide.

Does that mean sometimes doing it even if you’re not in the mood?

You might think you’re not in the mood, but once you get going…

Whatever you’re feeling, however tired you are, sex always makes you feel better afterwards.

It releases endorphins and leaves you feeling loved and happy, so it’s always worth it!

How has having kids affected your love life?

It means you have to be prepared to be spontaneous.

So wherever and whenever we get the chance, if we’re both up for it, we have to take the opportunities where we can. And we do!

Are yours and Michael’s libidos pretty evenly matched?

Yeah, we’re pretty much on the same page.

I’m more up for it if I’ve had a drink.

And weirdly, I’ve also found that when I’m pregnant, my libido is sky-high right up until the birth. It must be something to do with the hormones.

Did you have more sex during lockdown?

Well, we had a lockdown baby, so you can work that one out!

When I gave birth to Autumn, the midwife told me they’d been overwhelmed with babies conceived in lockdown. 

Have there been times when things have taken a dip in the bedroom, and if so, how have you overcome that?

We’re like everyone else. We sometimes have arguments, and there have been times when we’ve not been having as much sex as we’d like.

But Michael is my best friend, we still fancy each other and, because we don’t take things too seriously, we can always get things back on track.

It’s almost like we can read each other’s minds and obviously that really helps in the bedroom. 

Which do you prefer – quickies or long, steamy sessions?

Sometimes it’s nice to take your time, get dressed up in nice lingerie and have long-lasting, passionate sex.

But I usually find the more planning that goes into it, the more likely it’ll end up being a let-down.

I prefer to live in the moment – sometimes you only have five minutes, so it’s a case of: “Get your clothes off, we’ve not got long!”

How long after giving birth have you started having sex again?

It’s tricky, because you want to keep your man happy and to have a healthy relationship.

And I know sometimes men find that if they’re not having sex, it’s like a build-up of frustration for them and they can get moody.

To be honest, we all need to have sex for relief, but the most important thing is to start having sex again when you feel comfortable.

Does body confidence have an impact on your love life?

It really does. I’ve never felt better about my body than I have done in the last couple of years, and I think that’s made our sex life a lot better. I like to be adventurous and have fun with sex.

When I haven’t felt in my best shape and I’ve had problems with my boobs after surgery, I’ve not felt as sexy.

Now that’s all sorted, I feel good about myself and Michael makes nice comments about my body all the time, which definitely makes a difference.

Do you think women who talk openly about enjoying sex are judged unfairly?

Without a doubt. If a man sleeps with 20 women, he’s like a king.

I really admire Vanessa Feltz, who is very open about really loving sex and I just think good on her.

Everyone should be like that. Sex is such a natural thing, it’s something we all do, so why pretend otherwise?

I’m always going to be honest about it – I’m certainly not ashamed about enjoying sex.

When my nan was around, god forbid if you mentioned the word – she probably would have spat her tea out in horror.

But I’ll always be happy to talk about it with my kids and especially about consent, which is so important and something I’m really going to drum into them.

Are you and Michael able to separate what you do on OnlyFans from what happens between the two of you?

We both feel like that’s just a job. I have my real life and I have my work life, and they are separate.

It’s almost like an actress going away to do a movie and then coming home to live a normal, everyday life. Michael is so laid-back about it, so it’s never been an issue.

You had vaginoplasty surgery a few years ago to help with incontinence after having kids. But it had an unexpected bonus, didn’t it?

It did! Sex definitely felt so much better.

It made everything tighter and both of us felt the benefits of that.

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I’m actually wanting to get it done again now that I’ve had Autumn. 

Is sex getting better with age?

Absolutely. As you get older, you know what to do, what you like and, if you’ve been with someone a long time, what your partner likes as well. If you’re in tune with each other, as Michael and I are, that’s always a recipe for great sex! 

Danielle with husband Michael and her childrenInstagram/Danielle Lloyd

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

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My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

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