Sex with my girlfriend is over in minutes unless I’ve had a few drinks before 0 160

DEAR DEIDRE: SEX is over in a flash unless I have a few drinks first.

I orgasm within minutes and I’m worried that if I don’t start lasting longer, my girlfriend will leave me.

I don’t want to drink every time I think I might have sex

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I’m 23 and have been dating this girl, 22, for two years.

But I’ve had the same problem in past relationships.

Alcohol helps but I don’t want to drink every time I think I might have sex.

She says it’s fine but I can tell she’s just being nice.

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Sex would be so much better for her if I could just delay my ejaculation.

How can I last longer?

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DEIDRE SAYS:  Premature ejaculation is very common.

Usually it’s a psychological issue, rather than a physical one. Alcohol probably helps because you are more relaxed.

However, the more you worry about this, the more it’s likely to happen.



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