DEAR DEIDRE: NOW we’re married, my husband thinks he doesn’t have to put any effort in – and that includes in the bedroom.
He’s 35, I’m 33, and we’ve been married for two years.
Now we’re married, my husband thinks he doesn’t have to put any effort in – and that includes in the bedroom
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Our first year as a married couple was bliss.
We couldn’t keep our hands off each other.
But over the last few months, everything has changed.
My husband’s always ‘tired’ and never in the mood to chat.
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And on the rare occasions we do get intimate, it’s a quick romp at best.
There’s no excitement or passion. What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s normal for our sexual desire to ebb and flow, but something else might be going on for your husband.
Why is he so tired? Could work worries be the cause? Or an issue in your relationship which is affecting him?
Ask him what’s going on and that you’re worried and want to help.
Try to avoid a blame game which will only put him on the defensive.
My support pack, Reviving Sex Drive, will help you revive things in the bedroom.