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I’m a relationship expert – the first date red flags which mean you are doomed to fail 0 269

Stanley Myrick

IF your date checks off anything on this list, don’t offer them a second one.

Relationship expert Jaime Bronstein is the host of Love Talk Live on LA Talk Radio and was even named the #1 Relationship Coach by Yahoo Finance.

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Bronstein spoke exclusively with The Sun to share what she believes are the most important red flags to look out for on a first date.

The love expert shares her tips with her 91k followers on Instagram, and urges people to use their intuition when it comes to dating.

“If you feel like something doesn’t feel right, or it seems a little off, then trust that,” she said.

“If there’s an alert in your conciseness telling you to ‘run,’ or that ‘this is weird,’ trust that.”

Bronstein shared the top nine red flags to look out for on a first date, and said that “if the person has any of these things, you want to run.”

BRAGGING

“If someone is name dropping or brand dropping, like instead of saying they have a car they say ‘I have a Ferrari,’ it’s very unattractive,” she said.

“Cocky is very different than confident.”

“It might mean that they’re just nervous or that they’re insecure, but the point is that it probably isn’t going to change.”

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NEGATIVE EX TALK

“If they talk negatively about their ex or are criticizing their ex in anyway, it’s once again just not attractive,” said Bronstein.

Along with juddgeing their ex, the expert said if they begin to judge or criticize you, that’s also a huge red flag.

“It’s negative energy, and it’s not attractive.”

“It’s giving you insight into their personality, and why they think it’ appropriate to talk like that, is not something that you want to bring into your relationship.”

She said this also applies to them talking negatively about friends and family as well.

“Do you really want to get involved with someone when this could happen to you?”

THEY DON’T ASK QUESTIONS

“If they don’t ask you questions, if they’re only talking about themself, first of all that’s not an enjoyable conversation to have.”

“It means that they’re vain and just full of themselves,” she said.

“Why would you want to be in a relationship like that?”

ON THEIR PHONE

Bronstein said that if your date is spending time looking at their phone or around the room or really anywhere other than you, they’re not the one.

“They’re just not being present,” she said.

“If you’re on a date, you want your date to actually be there with you. Or else it’s not fun, not enjoyable, why are you even sitting there?”

DISRESPECTFUL TO WAITSTAFF

Nothing is more embarrassing than someone who is rude to your waiter/waitress.

“That can extrapolate to how they treat other people,” said the expert.

“You want to be with someone who treats people kindly.”

COMMENTS ON PRICES

When your date comments on the price of something, it puts you both in an uncomfortable situation.

“I feel like my stomach would just drop,” Bronstein said.

“It’s like where do you go from there, what do you say?” 

“Not everybody has to be a millionaire, obviously, but it shows this person is conscious about money, which is good, but that little example could turn into huge fights in a relationship.”

“I guarantee it will cause money problems in the relationship and you don’t want to deal with it.”

TOO SEXUAL TOO FAST

Bronstein said if your date is too sexual too fast or talks about sex too much, you should run.

“If they say things like ‘so are you going to come over later?’ Or repeatedly bring up sex or the two of you that evening or in the near future, it’s just not classy.”

“Some people like that because it makes them feel validated or important if they’re insecure, but a secure person wouldn’t.”

“It doesn’t make the other person feel respected.”

DRINKS TOO MUCH

If your date is treating your outing like their back in college, the love expert said that it’s “just not good.”

“If you’re not a big drinker and they are, it’s definitely not attractive.”

“Even if you are a big drinker and they are, it just causes a lot of problems.”

“Drinking too much is never, never a good thing.”

LETS YOU PAY

“If he lets you pay, run,” said the relationship coach.

“Sometimes if a guy lets you pay, or pay half of it, it just means that he’s not that into you.”

“It’s just a disrespectful thing and makes you feel bad about yourself.”

The Love Talk Live host shared her acronym for A.V.O.I.D., which she uses as a first date red flag checklist.

“If the person has any of these things, you want to run.”

The letter ‘A’ stands for arrogance, ‘V’ for vain, ‘O’ for Out of control, ‘I’ for Ignores you, and ‘D’ for dishonest.

She also advises her clients to keep dates as short as possible if they’re not having a good time.

““Even if it’s 15 minutes and you’re like ‘I do not want to be here anymore.’”

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