I’m a relationship expert – the TV shows that spell disaster for your romance & it’s bad news if you’re Love Island fan 0 96

SEX scenes, affairs and divorce, there’s a new wave of spicy shows that could make or break a relationship.

We give you the rundown.

There’s a new wave of spicy shows that could make or break a relationship – should you really watch Love Island with your partner?Rex

OPEN HOUSE

THE GREAT SEX EXPERIMENT

Open House sees couples trying open relationships as they stay at a retreat hosted by Jess and Thom

SEXUAL fantasy surveys show threesomes come out on top for blokes, but not women.

This show puts those desires into action, with couples trying open relationships.

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They stay at a retreat hosted by Jess, 24, and Thom, 33, who see nothing wrong with having sex with others, saying it “strengthens their bond”.

Not on your bucket list? Then give it a miss.

KATE’S VERDICT – The great sex experiment: “The danger here is some viewers will start to feel monogamy is uncool.

“Let me tell you, it’s really not. Watch for fun, but don’t feel obliged to invite the neighbours round for a live season finale.”

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NAKED ATTRACTION

EYE-POPPING BODY PARTS

Channel 4 Press HandoutOn Naked Attraction single blokes and women pick potential dates based purely on how they look in their birthday suits[/caption]

IT is probably the one of the most unusual shows on television – where single blokes and women pick potential dates based purely on how they look in their birthday suits.

The Channel 4 show, hosted by Anna Richardson, then follows them to see if their instincts served them well when they meet – fully clothed – for a date.

Of course, we all say size doesn’t matter, but we cannot pretend we haven’t choked on our cuppa when seeing some of the body parts on this show.

It is impossible not to compare what we see on screen – from perfectly preened privates to bouncy breasts and sizable penises – with what is at home.

Could your relationship handle it, or is your evening viewing likely to end in a flop?

KATE’S VERDICT – Eye-popping body parts: “Research found women enjoy looking at naked female bodies just as much as men do, even if they identify as straight.

“So the possibilities for jealousy here are doubled. Swerve this and put a mirror by your bed instead.”

CONVERSATIONS WITH FRIENDS

AWKWARD SEX

RuckasConversations With Friends has raunchy sex scenes featuring moody twentysomethings who cannot control their insatiable appetites[/caption]

REMEMBER Normal People? That raunchy bonkbuster that aired during lockdown and sparked an unofficial baby boom.

Well now BBC Three has launched Conversations With Friends, another novel-turned-series by Sally Rooney.

Watching the show’s raunchy sex scenes featuring moody twentysomethings who cannot control their insatiable appetites may prompt some uncomfortable soul-searching and make you ask yourselves, “Were we ever that hot for each other?”

Chances are, no you weren’t – no one was – but you cannot help putting your early days together under the microscope.

In Conversations With Friends, the lead characters are in a foursome with affairs and deceit aplenty.

Again, possibly not the best evening viewing for suspicious couples.

An awkward storyline with even more awkward sex scenes.

KATE’S VERDICT – Awkward sex scenes: “To last, relationships MUST move from unstable passion to predictable security.

“The further your sex life is from that of 20something students, the better it is. Turn this off and have an early night.”

LOVE ISLAND

PREPARE TO FALL OUT

Love Island tasks a group of men and women with saucy challenges in the hope they will meet The OneEroteme

TALL, tanned men with six packs, standing alongside curvaceous women, with never-ending legs and perky assets, it can only be Love Island.

The ITV reality show tasks a group of men and women with saucy challenges in the hope they will meet The One.

Take the annual Heart Racer challenge where half-naked islanders compete to perform the sexiest lap dance and see who raises their co-stars’ heart rates the most.

Cue your partner nagging you to strip to your stockings and suspenders for his own special show.

Then there are the debates that divide couples up and down the country every year.

From gaslighting and the rights and wrongs of flirting while “coupled up” to how soon is too soon for sex.

Just like the polarising issues on shows like Married At First Sight, it can be a minefield.

KATE’S VERDICT – Prepare to fall out: “Love Island could make waves in even the most committed couples. A 2019 survey found 39% of viewers fantasised about Islanders during sex with their actual partner.

“The fact that it’s reality TV makes us feel we’re only one dating-app swipe away from meeting our own Ovie or Maura in real life. Too close to home? Avoid.”

THE SPLIT

DIVORCE? NOT TONIGHT, THANKS

BBCThe Split follows divorce lawyers as they juggle work and their own dysfunctional relationships[/caption]

THIS is brilliant, but is it a show you should binge-watch while your other half is out?

Any couple that chooses to sit down together to watch a series about brutal break-ups and tangled webs of deceit needs a medal.

The BBC’s sex-packed legal drama follows divorce lawyers as they juggle work and their own dysfunctional relationships.

At the centre of it is Hannah, who is in a love triangle with husband Nathan and fellow lawyer Christie.

Series three, which aired last month and is available on iPlayer, will leave you in tears.

Avoid if your wedding vows are under strain.

KATE’S VERDICT – Divorce? Not tonight thanks: “Shows like this create the impression that every marriage will end. Not true! The UK divorce rate is falling.

“But, coupled with the recent introduction of no-fault, digital divorces, this show could inspire couples to break up.”

THE ULTIMATUM

COMMITMENTPHOBES BEWARE . . . 

WONDERING if your other half will ever commit? This Netflix dating show could, or could not be, for you.

Hosted by Nick and Vanessa Lachey, it focuses on six long-term couples who have come to an impasse where one party issues an ultimatum – to get married, or move on.

The couples spend time apart, mingling with the other couples and test their will-power by sleeping in the same bed as someone else.

They have the green light to cheat and must decide if they like it or not. A great way to decide whether to get married, right?

Channel 4’s Open House: The Great Sex Experiment has similar vibes – couples have threesomes to see if they like it.

KATE’S VERDICT – Commitment-phobes beware: “Watch this too soon into a relationship and it’ll seem like a hint; watch it a few years later, it’ll seem like an even bigger hint.

“Only safe to watch on your own, where you can cheer as the taken-for-granted partners finally find their backbone.”

SEX/LIFE

THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY

STEAMY dreams can disturb the peace at home. Especially if the subject of the dreams is an ex!

Eight-part fantasy-charged Sex/Life on Netflix sees housewife Billie grapple between her perfect-but-boring marriage and the sexually fulfilling relationship with her player ex, Brad.

She has flashbacks of wild sex with her well-endowed ex-boyfriend and keeps a record in an erotic diary on her laptop, which husband Cooper reads. Uh oh!

Everyone has a past – an attractive ex or the one that got away – and this series could certainly make imaginations run wild.

But if it kicks you or your other half into upping your game in the bedroom, it could be for you.

KATE’S VERDICT – The one that got away: “If you’re ever in doubt, here’s the truth: NO, a secret sex blog about your well-hung ex is NOT an effective way to rescue a boring marriage.

“Stop wearing floor-length nighties to bed and start being honest about what you need. Done.”

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 41

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 28

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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