Trolls say my disabled husband can’t satisfy me but they’re wrong – it’s not like a movie but we turn each other on 0 248

A COUPLE have taken to YouTube to reveal that cruel trolls mock their relationship and their sex life. 

Shane Burcaw was born with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA), and has used a wheelchair since the age of two.

InstagramShane and Hannah have revealed that trolls often question their sex life[/caption] InstagramThe couple revealed that they have no issues when it comes to the bedroom[/caption]

He met Hannah Aylward after she reached out to him online, and the pair have been in a relationship ever since.

The couple even tied the knot in September 2020, but as their romance blossomed, they revealed the abuse and criticism they’ve received due to their ‘interabled’ relationship.

Shane, from Pennyslvania, appeared on This Morning alongside Hannah to chat to Holly Willoughby and Phillip Schofield about their life.

Shane revealed that people often mistake Hannah for his nurse or carer, treat him like a child, or assume he’s incapable.

And now the couple have taken to YouTube, on an episode of StyleLikeU to open up about their sexuality.

The video was uploaded with the caption ‘laughing At Your Ableist BS’ and is part of the StyleLikeU series that sees diverse individuals claim self-acceptance by stripping down to open up about style, self-image and identity.

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Hannah explained: “Often people will assume that I’m Shane’s sister or mum.

“We definitely get a lot of comments from straight men thinking that it’s not fair that I’m with Shane and that I should be with them.

“People say that I couldn’t possibly be satisfied, we get that every day.” 

Shane revealed that due to his condition, men often assume that he can’t have sex, but this is not the case.

He said: “They perceive that I can’t have sex in their very limited, missionary man f***s woman. They think that is the be all and end all of sex.

“Little do they know…” 

“Our intimacy benefits from my disability and our intimacy is not just me enjoying it.

“It doesn’t look like what you see in the movies but I can totally do it.”

Shane explained that although he can’t move physically as non-disabled men would, this definitely doesn’t cause issues in the bedroom.

He continued: “I am more often that not, the initiator.

“A non-disabled mum might come up to Hannah and start rubbing her shoulders and I just say ‘hey, do you wanna go have sex?’ and I know that that probably shakes people as like ‘oh that must be not romantic’ but take our word for it. 

“After I ask that, we are romantic.

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“When we are in bed together I can ask her ‘will you roll me towards you’ or ‘can you move my arm so I can reach your neck or cheek’.”

Hannah explained: “In general Shane uses his voice in ways that other people might just physically do something.”

Hannah revealed that although Shane can ask her to move him into specific positions, they also have a secret language for these kinds of requests.

She continued: “We have shorthand for all of these things – he doesn’t say ‘can you move my legs under your legs’, we just know.

“I feel like I know his body and preferences as well as I know my own.”

The couple are so comfortable with each other that their relationship works perfectly and they completely trust one another. 

Hannah added: “The best part about our relationship is that we have comfort with each other.”

Due to his disability, Shane has often been made to feel like a burden, but with Hannah things are different. 

He said: “I know that our life will continue to be hilarious and fun and full of adventure.

“I feel for the first time in my life that I’m not a burden because Hannah is wholly there for me and doesn’t feel burdened by me.”  

After bing live for just a week the video had already racked up 237,590 views and 14,000 likes. 

Many YouTube users were in awe of the couple’s relationship and took to the comments to express this. 

One person said: “This couple is inspirational…not because of Shane’s disabilities, but because of the way they love, respect and communicate with each other. I just love them!” 

Another added: “They are the most real couple there is. Shane has never been a burden and he has supported her emotional needs. So glad they were featured on this program.” 

A third added: “I have followed Shane and Hannah for years. My husband is also in a wheelchair, and it’s so nice to see other interabled couples have deep meaningful love.”

The couple revealed that they are really comfortable with each other and know what turns each other on InstagramShane revealed that after feeling like a burden for many years, Hannah makes him feel loved and accepted[/caption] YouTube Many YouTube users were supportive of the couple and their openness on their sex life[/caption]

Meanwhile, I have great sex with my disabled client – we have to be inventive with positions but he has same needs as anyone else.

Also, I came out to my husband as bisexual 3 years ago – now I’m the UK’s most famous swinger.

As well as this, I’m a sex worker & I make money posting my bloated belly – I thought I knew the kinkiest fetishes but this surprised me.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 40

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let yourself stoop to her level.

You can make it clear she is lying without playing her game, which would only escalate tensions and reflect badly on you.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

My partner said he was on a work trip – but he was actually getting married and on his honeymoon 0 28

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

When he returned from his “work trip” he blamed me for his cheating, saying I had let myself go and didn’t pay him enough attention.

He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

Apparently this woman was a barmaid he’d met on a golf trip and they had been seeing each other for six months.

He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

But other times I’m so angry with him, I refuse to let him in.

Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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Surely he can’t just show up when he likes?

I’m a mess and need to start getting a grip for the kids’ sake.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so sorry your partner ended your relationship in such a cruel way.

This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

I’m sending you my support pack When Parents Fall Out, which you could pass to him to help explain why you need to co-operate for the future wellbeing of your children.

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Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. He put you down constantly, now you can start to build up your confidence.

I’d recommend seeing a counsellor to help you with this betrayal and am sending you my Counselling support pack.

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