I’m sick of boring sex with my man – since cheating at the Christmas do I’ve had 4 affairs and can’t wait for my next 0 227

AN OFFICE worker has told how she got a taste for affairs after bedding a colleague at the office Christmas party.

Admin worker Claire*, 31, from Buckinghamshire, had always been more passionate about sex than her long-term boyfriend.

Getty – ContributorClaire got a taste for affairs during her last work Christmas party[/caption]

And she strayed for the first time at the office festive bash two years ago – just before the pandemic arrived.

That made her realise she loved the thrill of illicit sex and she has had four further affairs since then.

Claire said: “Christmas is my favourite time of the year. I loved to party and get a bit flirty under the mistletoe. My first Christmas fling changed my life and gave me a strong desire for forbidden sex.

“Our office Christmas bash is back this year after a break for Covid 12 months ago. Everyone is excited about getting together and I will definitely be as racy as ever. It’s going to be a lot of fun.”

Claire had got bored of sex with her boyfriend of three years before cheating for the first time at the work do in 2019.

She said: “Sex was great at first but it tailed off after the first year and we got into this routine of the Sunday morning bonk.

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“Sex was once a week – same time, same position, same duration. Sex is like food – eat the same meal every day and you soon get bored of it.

“I loved my boyfriend and we had just bought a house together so I didn’t want to leave him, but I also didn’t want to settle for a rubbish sex life.”

Claire had always had a flirty relationship with a colleague at work and that developed into a fling at the office Christmas party two years ago.

She said: “We had been flirting all night as the drinks flowed and towards the end of the party he asked if I wanted to get some air.

“We went outside and were all over each other. We nearly had sex on a bench near the hotel where the party was being held but eventually went back to his place.

“It was the first time I had cheated and it was incredibly exciting. It made me realise I had to break out of the sex rut I was in with my boyfriend.”

Claire was wary of getting more heavily involved with her workmate and cooled things after their night of passion because she knew both their careers would suffer if the affair was discovered.

Instead she turned to IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site.

She said: “I wasn’t looking for a new partner – just some discreet affairs with people in a similar position to me.

“I have had four affairs over the last two years and I like the excitement you get from meeting someone new and sleeping with them for the first time.

“I feel like I am discovering the joy of sex again for a second time.”

Claire’s first fling happened last summer when the covid restrictions first started to ease.

She said: “It was with a financial director who lived near me and was stuck in a sexless marriage. We would meet up and go for long walks in hills near our homes and combine sex with a picnic. It fizzled out because we both wanted to see other people.”

Claire has had three flings this year since double vaccinations have made it safer to sleep with strangers.

She said: “I have been having the time of my life. I feel like a teenager again and I will carry on having affairs.

“My boyfriend knows that I like sex more than him and I think he suspects that I am up to no good but he doesn’t like to ask too many questions. I think he is scared that I will leave him.

“I am really looking forward to the office bash, too. I might end up with somebody but only if they are not interested in anything serious.”

I feel like I am discovering the joy of sex again for a second time


Claire was speaking as a new survey from IllicitEncounters.com revealed the Christmas party season is set to be the sexiest ever in 2021 as revellers make up for lost time due to Covid.

Two-thirds of women (66%) and even more men (74%) said they were more likely to party hard this year because last year was a write-off due to the pandemic.

Three-quarters of firms (76%) are planning festive bashes this year as staff working from home get ready to let their hair down with colleagues for the first time in two years.

A third of women (32%) and even more men (42%) secretly lust after a work colleague.

Three out of ten women (36%) and a similar number of men (31%) have scored with a colleague at the Xmas bash.

The survey of 2,000 people, split evenly amongst the sexes, found that almost nine of out ten people (89%) had missed partying with work pals because of the Covid restrictions.

It revealed that one in six women (16%) and slightly fewer men (14%) have cheated on their partner at the works festive do.

It revealed that more than a third of women (36%) and a similar number of men (35%) had done something they regret at a previous Christmas bash.

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Porn and Mental Health: The Challenges and Strategies for Coping in the Industry 0 178

Pornography is a billion-dollar industry that has gained widespread popularity across the globe. However, while it may be a source of entertainment for some, the industry can be challenging for performers’ mental health. The pressure to perform and meet the expectations of producers and viewers can take a toll on performers’ mental wellbeing. In this article, we’ll explore the challenges that the porn industry poses to mental health and strategies for coping with them.

The Challenges

  1. Stigma and Shame

The porn industry is still stigmatized, and performers can face a lot of shame and judgment from society. This can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, making it difficult for performers to seek help and support when needed.

  1. Pressure to Perform

Performers in the porn industry are expected to meet certain expectations and perform at their best every time. This pressure can be overwhelming and can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

  1. Isolation and Loneliness

Performing in the porn industry can be a lonely experience, with performers spending long hours on set or on their own, away from friends and family. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which can take a toll on mental health.

  1. Trauma and Abuse

The porn industry is not immune to issues such as sexual harassment, assault, and exploitation. Performers may experience these traumatic events, leading to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression.

Strategies for Coping

Seek Professional Help

Performers in the porn industry should seek professional help and support when they need it. There are many therapists and counselors who specialize in working with performers in the industry and can help with issues such as anxiety, depression, and trauma.

Practice Self-Care

Self-care is crucial for performers in the porn industry. Taking breaks when needed, exercising, and practicing mindfulness and meditation can help performers manage stress and promote mental wellbeing.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Having a supportive network of friends, family, and colleagues can make a big difference in performers’ mental health. Surrounding yourself with people who understand the challenges of the industry and offer non-judgmental support can help performers cope with the stresses of the job.

Address Trauma and Abuse

Performers who have experienced trauma and abuse in the industry should seek support and address these issues head-on. This may involve therapy, reporting incidents to the authorities, and taking legal action if necessary.


The porn industry poses significant challenges to performers’ mental health, from stigma and shame to pressure to perform and trauma and abuse. However, with the right strategies, performers can cope with these challenges and maintain good mental wellbeing. Seeking professional help, practicing self-care, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and addressing trauma and abuse are just a few strategies that can help performers in the porn industry maintain good mental health.

Navigating Consent and Boundaries in the Porn Industry: A Guide for Newcomers 0 165

Consent and boundaries are crucial aspects of the porn industry, and it’s essential for newcomers to understand how to navigate these issues. In this article, we’ll provide a guide for those who are new to the industry on how to approach consent and boundaries in a professional and respectful manner.

First and foremost, it’s important to understand that consent is always required in the porn industry. This means that every actor must give explicit and enthusiastic consent to any sexual act that is portrayed on camera. Consent can be given verbally or non-verbally, but it must always be clear and enthusiastic.

In order to ensure that consent is obtained, communication is key. Actors should have open and honest conversations with their scene partners and the director prior to filming. They should discuss what they are comfortable with and what their boundaries are, as well as any specific instructions or concerns.

It’s also important for actors to feel empowered to set their own boundaries and to speak up if they feel uncomfortable or unsafe during filming. This means that if an actor does not want to perform a particular act or if they feel that their boundaries are being pushed, they have the right to stop the scene and speak to the director about their concerns.

It’s also essential for actors to be aware of their own physical and emotional limits. This means that they should take breaks as needed, communicate with their scene partner and director about any discomfort or pain, and engage in self-care practices to ensure that they are physically and emotionally prepared for the demands of the job.

Finally, it’s important for actors to have a support system in place. This can include talking to other actors who have experience in the industry, seeking out counseling or therapy, and having trusted friends and family members who can provide emotional support.

Navigating consent and boundaries in the porn industry can be challenging, but it’s an essential part of maintaining a safe and respectful work environment. By following these guidelines, newcomers to the industry can ensure that they are approaching these issues in a professional and responsible manner.

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