I’m sick of boring sex with my man – since cheating at the Christmas do I’ve had 4 affairs and can’t wait for my next 0 88

AN OFFICE worker has told how she got a taste for affairs after bedding a colleague at the office Christmas party.

Admin worker Claire*, 31, from Buckinghamshire, had always been more passionate about sex than her long-term boyfriend.

Getty – ContributorClaire got a taste for affairs during her last work Christmas party[/caption]

And she strayed for the first time at the office festive bash two years ago – just before the pandemic arrived.

That made her realise she loved the thrill of illicit sex and she has had four further affairs since then.

Claire said: “Christmas is my favourite time of the year. I loved to party and get a bit flirty under the mistletoe. My first Christmas fling changed my life and gave me a strong desire for forbidden sex.

“Our office Christmas bash is back this year after a break for Covid 12 months ago. Everyone is excited about getting together and I will definitely be as racy as ever. It’s going to be a lot of fun.”

Claire had got bored of sex with her boyfriend of three years before cheating for the first time at the work do in 2019.

She said: “Sex was great at first but it tailed off after the first year and we got into this routine of the Sunday morning bonk.

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“Sex was once a week – same time, same position, same duration. Sex is like food – eat the same meal every day and you soon get bored of it.

“I loved my boyfriend and we had just bought a house together so I didn’t want to leave him, but I also didn’t want to settle for a rubbish sex life.”

Claire had always had a flirty relationship with a colleague at work and that developed into a fling at the office Christmas party two years ago.

She said: “We had been flirting all night as the drinks flowed and towards the end of the party he asked if I wanted to get some air.

“We went outside and were all over each other. We nearly had sex on a bench near the hotel where the party was being held but eventually went back to his place.

“It was the first time I had cheated and it was incredibly exciting. It made me realise I had to break out of the sex rut I was in with my boyfriend.”

Claire was wary of getting more heavily involved with her workmate and cooled things after their night of passion because she knew both their careers would suffer if the affair was discovered.

Instead she turned to IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site.

She said: “I wasn’t looking for a new partner – just some discreet affairs with people in a similar position to me.

“I have had four affairs over the last two years and I like the excitement you get from meeting someone new and sleeping with them for the first time.

“I feel like I am discovering the joy of sex again for a second time.”

Claire’s first fling happened last summer when the covid restrictions first started to ease.

She said: “It was with a financial director who lived near me and was stuck in a sexless marriage. We would meet up and go for long walks in hills near our homes and combine sex with a picnic. It fizzled out because we both wanted to see other people.”

Claire has had three flings this year since double vaccinations have made it safer to sleep with strangers.

She said: “I have been having the time of my life. I feel like a teenager again and I will carry on having affairs.

“My boyfriend knows that I like sex more than him and I think he suspects that I am up to no good but he doesn’t like to ask too many questions. I think he is scared that I will leave him.

“I am really looking forward to the office bash, too. I might end up with somebody but only if they are not interested in anything serious.”

I feel like I am discovering the joy of sex again for a second time

Claire

Claire was speaking as a new survey from IllicitEncounters.com revealed the Christmas party season is set to be the sexiest ever in 2021 as revellers make up for lost time due to Covid.

Two-thirds of women (66%) and even more men (74%) said they were more likely to party hard this year because last year was a write-off due to the pandemic.

Three-quarters of firms (76%) are planning festive bashes this year as staff working from home get ready to let their hair down with colleagues for the first time in two years.

A third of women (32%) and even more men (42%) secretly lust after a work colleague.

Three out of ten women (36%) and a similar number of men (31%) have scored with a colleague at the Xmas bash.

The survey of 2,000 people, split evenly amongst the sexes, found that almost nine of out ten people (89%) had missed partying with work pals because of the Covid restrictions.

It revealed that one in six women (16%) and slightly fewer men (14%) have cheated on their partner at the works festive do.

It revealed that more than a third of women (36%) and a similar number of men (35%) had done something they regret at a previous Christmas bash.

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My bitter ex told lies to my friends about my ‘small manhood’ after I dumped her 0 47

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger.

She never complained when we were together, but last week she told the girls in our group that being with me was “like kissing a soggy lettuce leaf” and that she “literally didn’t feel a thing when we were having sex” because I’m so small.

My ex is so bitter about being dumped that she is spreading nasty rumours around our friendship group – saying I’m rubbish in bed and have a small todger

I’m 25 and she’s 24. I think part of it is jealousy.

She knows a couple of the other girls fancy me and I think she’s trying to sabotage any chance I have with them.

Not that I’m even planning anything.

She’s so insecure and has a vicious tongue on her.

I’m tempted to let each of her so-called friends know what she really says about them in private.

Even her best friend gets a nasty critique every time she posts anything on Instagram.

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Her top is either too short, or her hair looks like wire, or her laugh is fake . . . it goes on and on.

I don’t regret splitting up with her but this last trick has really infuriated me.

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You could maybe reply with: “Let’s just say she never complained when we were together and nor have any of my other exes.”

Your friends will soon see her behaviour for what it is – jealous insecurity.

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner said he was on a work trip two months ago, but he had actually got married and been on honeymoon.

Our relationship had become a bit predictable, but we still had regular sex and nice days out with our two young sons.

My partner lied about his work trip – he was really on his HONEYMOON

I’m 32 and he’s 37. Our sons are four and two.

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He then told me he’d “traded up” for a better model. It didn’t stop there.

He said that his wife, who is 27, is absolutely stunning and makes him feel special.

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He told me all this, then marched upstairs and packed his games console and his clothes and drove off out of my life.

The thing is, we always talked about getting married but when we had kids there always seemed something better to spend our money on.

Mutual friends have told me he has moved into a new-build home on the other side of our small town and his wife has plenty of family money.

My sons are really missing him and I don’t even know how I feel.

Sometimes when he comes to visit the boys I beg him to come home.

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Now he is accusing me of stopping him from seeing his children.

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This man sounds selfish and immature, and quite frankly the way he has treated you is emotionally abusive.

It won’t feel like it now, but you really are better off without him.

He is behaving like he still lives in your home, by just turning up unannounced.

Tell him firmly that you would encourage a good relationship between him and your sons but he can only collect them with prior arrangement.

Start to put down your boundaries.

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